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AWWW HOW CUTE HE LOOK LIKE DADDY AND HE DOES LOOK SPOILED AND BAD LOL ;) I BET HE LOOK CUTE WITH BRAIDS JUST LIKE DADDY I WANNA BRAID HIS HAIR LOL ;)
I REMEMBER WHEN HE WAS 2MOS OLD HERE- [link to external website removed] AWWW HE GREW SO NICELY GO KIYAN AND HAPPY EARLY BDAY HE BE 1 MAR,7 GUYS :) ALSO LALA LOOKS NICE LOL.
@Spraggaswifey..."SoulPole---THAT COMMENT WAS CHILDISH AND WACK...TALKING ABOUT A CHILD...YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELF...."
............................................... Why should I be ashamed for speaking the truth? The kid is a ***! Or have black women forgotten the definition of the word? Yall so used to spitting out babies and never marry you're not even ashamed of yourselves anymore! But like most of yoo simple minded ***, you continually recite "stop hatin" when you get called out on your foul lifestyle! Black women need to get their s hit together, and stop tsking advice from the Oprah's and Hillary Clinton's of this country and reclaim some *** morals!
SoulPole---you don't know mi or anything about mi life...why are you stereotyping mi and other Black woman??....morals???...lol...you have some nerve to talk about morals when you talk about innocent children...this post is about lala and mello's SON...not about woman having children and they aren't wifed up....Black woman need to get their ish together??...hmm...what about woman of other races??...simple minded ***??...that was the funniest thing i've read in a minute...i'm not even going to get into this with yuh...it's not even worth it and neither are yuh....bless...
@Spraggaswifey "SoulPole---you don't know mi or anything about mi life...why are you stereotyping mi and other Black woman??....morals???...lol...you have some nerve to talk about morals when you talk about innocent children...this post is about lala and mello's SON...not about woman having children and they aren't wifed up....Black woman need to get their ish together??...hmm...what about woman of other races??...simple minded ***??...that was the funniest thing i've read in a minute...i'm not even going to get into this with yuh...it's not even worth it and neither are yuh....bless..."
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Thanks for proving my point! Reading between the lines, what your response really says is "Im a looser chick from the ghetto, so my only goal in life is to get knocked up by some dude so I can get a check!" What a waste of God's air you are...Any black women out there anymore with a little bit of decency?
@ SoulPole
Why are you singling out black women??? (By the way, La-La is PUERTO RICAN!!)
Don't get me wrong, I do believe in marriage before kids but calling out 1 race for something that countless others are guilty of as well is wrong. There are unwed mothers everywhere now days, of all races. (Nicole Richie, Jamie Lynn Spears, just to name some white celebs for you.)
That's the problem in this country...people don't believe in marriage anymore. Although these rich single mother celebs have the money to take care of their own, it still doesn't make it right. But just know that coming down on your own people for what other races are doing too isn't right either.
SOLEPOLE---"Im a looser chick from the ghetto, so my only goal in life is to get knocked up by some dude so I can get a check!" .................................................WHAT????..[SPAM]LOLOLOL..LOOSER???..LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL...WHO MI???....SILLY LITTLE TING YUH....YUH NAH KONW MI FROM A CAN OF PAINT...READING BETWEEN YOUR LINES SHOWS MI THAT YUH ARE A HEAD CASE WHO EITHER NEEDS TO BE IN A PADDED ROOM IN A STR8 JACKET 24 HRS A DAY OR HEAVILY SEDATED....I'M DONE WITH YUH...YUH NAH WORTH IT...PLEASE SEEK SOME HELP IMMEDIATELY...BLESS....
HE IS A LITTLE HOTTIE. HE'S GOING TO GET ALL OF THE LADIES WHEN HE GETS OLDER.
OMGOODNESS!!! I JUST READ SOLEPOLE'S COMMENTS!!! WHAT IS WRONG WITH HIM? I'M A YOUNG INTELLIGENT BLACK WOMAN WHO DOESN'T HAVE ANY KIDS AND I HAVE A GOOD CAREER. I KNOW GOD, AND WHAT HE TEACHES ME IS THAT IT'S NOT MY PLACE TO JUDGE ANYONE FOR THEIR LIFE. I'M SURE YOU'RE NOT PERFECT AND YOU'VE FALLEN *** OF THE GLORY OF GOD MANY TIMES. IT DOESN'T MATTER IF YOU DON'T BELIEVE, THATS JUST WHAT I BELIEVE AND I HAVE A RIGHT TO SAY IT JUST LIKE YOU DO. THE ONLY PERSON I NEED TO WORRY ABOUT IS ME, MYSELF, AND I. @ MTO, PLEASE BAN THIS DUDE FROM THIS WEBSITE. WE HAVE ENOUGH RACISM AS BLACK PEOPLE TO DEAL WITH ALREADY, NOT ON THIS WEBSITE TOO. DANG!!!!
@SoulPole - Everything you said was correct. Anytime someone tries to speak up on the tragedy of un-wed mothers in our black community, some idiot always says "But white folks are doing it too!" The DIFFERENCE IS that 70% of white women with children are MARRIED. YET, YET, YET 70% of black women ARE UNMARRIED. Now that's a freaking tragedy. Those numbers alone are plenty of reason to speak up on this.
Also, the next time I hear some ghetto chick talking about getting "wifed up" I'm going to scream. Terms like that only minimize the importance and sanctity of marriage. Idiot terms lik "baby mama" were bad enough, now "wifey" is the new word for a woman who ACTS like a wife... but ISN'T because his azz has NO plans to marry you.
But what can you do...?? Some people just don't know what they don't know.
The baby is adorable. I hate to say that I do agree that a lot of black women should wisen up and realize that they can't just have babies with men that aren't going to marry them and think that life will treat them nicely for it. Black women are the mother's of our culture and we must retain our glory, but not accepting less than what we deserve. Black women are the least likely woman of ALL ethnic groups to get married. We are more likely to be a "baby mama" than a wife. So, therefore, it is up to young black women to step in and make the changes need to change the stats. We need to have more positive thinking and go after what we want using our morals as we have in the past. I know not all black women are baby mama's, because I am 29, educated and happily married to a black man with a masters degree! However, my husband is an oddity in America, because the average black man doesn't get a corporate job, and doesn't finish college the few who will are rare.
....the next time I hear some ghetto chick talking about getting "wifed up" I'm going to scream... .................................................WIFED UP WIFED UP WIFED UP WIFED UP WIFED UP WIFED UP WIFED UP WIFED UP WIFED UP WIFED UP WIFED UP WIFED UP WIFED UP WIFED UP WIFED UP.....ARE YUH SCREAMING YET?.. ....BY MI USING THAT TERM IT DOES NOT MINIMIZE THE SANCTITY OF MARRIGE..JUST LIKE I TOLD THE OTHER PERSON WHO'S NAME THAT I FORGOT, WHO ARE YUH TO STEREOTYPE MI AND YUH NAH KNOW MI?..I'M "GHETTO" BECAUSE I USED THE TERM "WIFED UP"?...PLEASE... THIS IS A POST ABOUT THEIR SON WHO IS A BABY...WHY CALL THAT BABY A NAME?..THE LITTLE BOY IS INNOCENT AND HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HIS PARENTS ACTIONS... AND FOR THE RECORD I DO BELIEVE IN MARRIAGE BEFORE BABY CARRIAGE...ALWAYS HAVE AND ALWAYS WILL...AND YES I DO FEEL THAT THE BLACK RACE AS A WHOLE IS IN A STATE OF EMERGENCY NOT JUST BLACK UNWED MOTHERS...DOWNING A CHILD WHILE TRYING TO PROVE A POINT IS CRAZY AND CHILDISH.... I DON'T KNOW EITHER OF YUH PEOPLE BUT THE SAYING GOES, WHEN YUH KNOW BETTER YUH DO BETTER AND BEING THE FACT THAT THIS PERSON DOESN'T KNOW BETTER THEN TO CALL A INNOCENT CHILD NAMES MAKES MI WONDER....BUT WHATEVER.... reginalovely---THE RASTA IS COOL....
FOLKS ARE FOREVER STRESSING MARRIAGE...BUT THE DIVORCE RATE IS SO HIGH...WHY FORCE IT? WHY SAY IF U HAVE A BABY BY HIM/HER YOU NEED TO MARRY HIM/HER...WTF...FOR WHAT? IF ITS NOT MEANT TO BE NO NEED TO FORCE IT JUST TO PLEASE SOCIETY OR TRADITION......COME ON.....JUST LET FOLKS LIVE ...I JUST THINK IF A CHILD IS BROUGHT INTO THIS WORLD HE/SHE SHOULD BE TAKIN CARE OF. IT DOES NOT MATTER BY WHO BUT AS LONG AS THE CHILD GETS THE LOVE IT NEEDS....
@Spraggieswife - What Soulpole said about the baby was harsh - true. But he makes a good point about all this babymama nonsense. it's only keeping our race down. you put a little asian kid next to a black kid and the asian kid already has a leg up in life simply because he comes from a 2-person home. all the studies will show you that kids that come from single family homes end up in the juvenile system, teenage parents, and are high school drop outs at significantly higher rates. So its true, the numbers don't lie. And common sense tells you that as well.
In conclusion, SoulPole was just using this article as a catalyst to discuss the craziness that's going on in our community. And he's entitled to do that on this site or anywhere else.
@HotLatte - Speak the truth sista! See, we're not all dumb!
@atlstud25 - In an idealistic world, everything you just typed would be great. Unfortunatley, there are too many negative consequences to having kids out of marriage. These are the same consequences that are keeping us caged up like animals in the prison system, keeping us out of the mainstream of society monetarily. It's the bad and selfish decisions many of us make as adults that f*ck up our kid's futures. From w w w. f a t h e r s . c o m
1. Crime - Children in single parent families are more likely to be in trouble with the law than their peers who grow up with two parents.
Source: U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. National Center for Health Statistics. National Health Interview Survey. Hyattsville, MD, 2006.
- In a study using a national probability sample of 1,636 young men and women, it was found that older boys and girls from female headed households are more likely to commit criminal acts than their peers who lived with two parents.
- A study in the state of Washington using statewide data found an increased likelihood that children born out-of-wedlock would become a juvenile offender. Compared to their peers born to married parents, children born out-of-wedlock were:
2. Sexual Activity and Teen Pregnancy - Adolescent females between the ages of 15 and 19 years reared in homes without fathers are significantly more likely to engage in premarital *** than adolescent females reared in homes with both a mother and a father. THIS LEADS TO HIGHER BLACK STD AND AIDS RATES.
- Children in single parent families are more likely to get pregnant as teenagers than their peers who grow up with two parents.
3. 2. Drug and Alcohol Abuse - The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services states, "Fatherless children are at a dramatically greater risk of drug and alcohol abuse."
Source: U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. National Center for Health Statistics. Survey on Child Health. Washington, DC, 2004.
- Children growing up in single-parent households are at a significantly increased risk for drug abuse as teenagers.
Source: Denton, Rhonda E. and Charlene M. Kampfe. "The relationship Between Family Variables and Adolescent Substance Abuse: A literature Review." Adolescence 114 (2004): 475-495.
- Children who live apart from their fathers are 4.3 times more likely to smoke cigarettes as teenagers than children growing up with their fathers in the home.
4. Poverty - Children in father-absent homes are five times more likely to be poor.
- In 2006, young children living with unmarried mothers were five times as likely to be poor and ten times as likely to be extremely poor.
Source: "One in Four: America's Youngest Poor." National Center for children in Poverty. 2006.
- Almost 75% of American children living in single-parent families will experience poverty before they turn 11 years old. Only 20 percent of children in two-parent families will do the same.
5. Educational Achievement
- Fatherless children are twice as likely to drop out of school.
Source: U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. National Center for Health Statistics. Survey on Child Health. Washington, DC; GPO, 2003.
- School children from divorced families are absent more, and more anxious, hostile, and withdrawn, and are less popular with their peers than those from intact families.
@spraggieswife - By "scream" I meant figuratively. Ignorance is bliss so you might as well stay zoned out. You're obviously too dumb to know any better.
First Off, their baby is so *** adorable!!!!
Secondly I'm reading all the comments and like I have said before my life situation and opinion is a bit torn between both sides...For someone to call an inncocent child a name is ignorant in itself and VERY uncalled for rather the definition is true or not, it's such and ugly word to describe a precious baby...It is true that children that grow up in single parent homes are more likely to end up being "statistics" of some sort, but if by chance something happens in life and you have an unplanned pregnancy I don't agree you are suppose to jump and marry just because of that fact because a child can just as well grow up screwed up in the head after being raised in a home with two unhappy married parents. I feel where we go wrong is not learning from our mistakes, if you slip up once, ok sh*t happens, but don't be stupid and continue to have baby after baby with man after man...and whoever said a man WON'T marry you after "playing wife" that's absolutly NOT TRUE...I have 2 beautiful sons with a man I didn't marry until after we had our second son, but we did it when we felt we were definitely ready to make that move with eachother because we knew no matter where our relationship went we would ALWAYS be good, committed parents...And stop throwing all these *** stereotypes out there it's so ignorant!!!
YALL CAN COME OUT WITH THOSE STUPID MADE UP STATS ALL YOU WANT THATS ***!!! NOW SOMEONE STAT SAID SOMETHING ABOUT FATHERLESS THIS BOY IS NOT FATHERLESS AND EVEN IF LALA AND CARMELO DONT WORK OUT IM SURE CARMELO STILL GONE BE IN HIS SON LIFE!!!
AND GETTING MARRIED THESE DAYS IS LIKELY GONNA END IN DIVORCE WHICH IS MORE PAINFUL FOR A CHILD TO DEAL WITH!!! LOOK HOW IRV GOTTI SON TOOK IT WIN HIS MOM MENTIONED DIVORCE!!!! I CAN GO ON BUT I GOT OTHER THINGS TO DO BUT YALL NEED TO CHILL CUZ I SHOW DONT HERE NONE OF THIS SH*T WHEN ITS ON HALLE!!!!!!
He is adorable; God bless him
How did I know this one was going to turn into a debate on marriage and having children out of wedlock??? Some of yah just couldn’t stick to the topic and comment on the *** child and keep it moving. You people have not lives… Bet any amount of money that most of yah who have something negative to say aint in a better situation and yah just up here fronting!!! We can all say what we want from behind a computer but how many of us who are casting the first stone at this couple are without sin???
~~~~~//~~~~~//~~~~~//~~~~~//~~~~~ ALWAYS SAY IT WITH A SMILE!!!
@EBZO1 how the hell can you say "By the way she is still black even though she's PR....it don't change.
Marriage is overrated. Cute kid." I have a couple of problems w/ this. First Black is an culture while Peurto Ricans is a race. College education anyone? Second did you really just want to get on here and make a comment, just let the world know, did you? because it seems to me that you had nothing constructive or even original to say besides something that my seven year old brother could differentiate from. black= pr. not in the least. No offense to anyone out there but thats in no way possible unless one person has a mixed heritage. I am going to need for people to stop cyber beefing as well. to be honest OPINIONS ARE LIKE ***, EVERYONE HAS ONE!!!!. I apologize for being vulgar and it might even seem as if I am also participating in cyber beef but that is not the case. I just wish people would back up their opinions w/ some common sense and logic.
The reason there aren't as many african american women who marry is because 95% of men on this earth aren't any good. So why should we marry? We all know that african american women are much smarter than white women or any other race. You can still receive benefits i.e. medical or life insurance without having a marriage license. And yes, MARRIAGE is very much so overated.
Back @ AulovelySha
Black IS black is BLACK.....PR is not a race....... what is perceived as black in some countries is fluid like brazil, etc. or can be pretty rigid/strict like here in the us....black isn't all of a sudden different though just because you or your family comes from another island. That is how the hell I can say even though she is PR that chick is black.....you disagree? Why do people curse so much here? Saying black is a culture but PR is a race is so backwards...... how can a white PR and a black PR be of the same RACE?
I have a college education and continuing how about you? Oh I see so you're dissecting and getting all intellectual okay well before you do thatyou should get a good grasp on what is an ethnicity and what is a race. Puerto Ricans or Latinos in general are of any race or mix ..... a white person can be PR.....an asian person can be cuban, etc. PR or Latinos don't all have a certain look....why BECAUSE Latino is NOT A RACE.
And lol you have the nerve to question or actually insult MY intelligence and logic.... this made my day.
And what is cyber beef? Is like a new term for being bored or something? What is that?
