@advocator- great job on the language.
I agree that women contradict themselves. I would also submit to you that men do the same. Example: a freak in the bedroom/ want to teach her a few things/ want her to be experienced/ don't want her to be a hoe. We often say we don't need a man because we know that deep down there is a distinct possibility that we may be going at it alone.
Black women do not want to be men. A lot of women did not grow up with men in our homes, or have dated such unstable men, or found ourselves in situations where the man was too reliant on us. I do admit that the role expectations can be blurred in such ***, but I can not agree that women want to be men.
Any rational person has the ability to engage in self-reflection and can distance themselves from emotional situations to arrive at whether or not he/she is wrong. Being wrong is an uncomfortable position for all people to be in and we have all found ourselves there.
On the black/white issue: we get so up in arms about it because we were expecting our Prince Charming to look like us. After repeated attempts at trying, we are outraged that we are still falling ***. The other thing is black women are intensely loyal, even when we are done wrong- we still want to try to give our men a ***. I would even argue that that and of course, self-esteem issues contributes to the black/white outrage where WW and BM are concerned.
On respect: all colors fall *** in the area of respect. I can not limit the issue of respect/lack thereof to just black women. I have white friends that put up with all kinds of nonsense from the non-black men that they are seeing. The age-old theory rings true here, you teach people how to treat you. If you are thugging, then it is harder for me to take you seriously and respect you as a man.
I would encourage the black women to follow our black men's lead, and look for what is right for you.