First off, how can it be a wardrobe malfunction if she isn't wearing it in the *** place. Its not like it was an accident. And who's to say she isn't wearing something. ...How could you tell?
Now, Lola herself... Its hard to speak negative about her because I feel she made some mistakes. I've seen the before and after and have to say she was gorgeous "before". She did have a naturally "unnatural" shape before, from her heritage (Ethiopian and I believe Trini as well). But somewhere along the line, she got caught up and maybe even selfish and lost a lot of her attractiveness. Her face is still cute but that tat right below it is distracting. Lookit her in the "I'm Good" video (where she's a lil' more covered up) and tell me she doesn't look good.
It really is sad to see beautiful Black women fall into a self-conscious, insecure, self-disrespecting state where they feel they have to take Man's image of "beauty" over God's. (And I mean Mankind not just "men") Its one thing to go in for corrective surgery, but if it ain't broke, Meagan Good and Lola, don't try to fix it.
This seems like a good place to give my usual *** out to women in the industry like Nia Long, Jada Pinkett, Sanaa Lathan, Angela Bassett, Gabriel Union, Queen Latifah, Elise Neal, Kerry Washington, and the slew of others right now who "keep it real".
Antidumb, I haven't been on for a while, but I'm glad to see you're still holding it down for us... um, brothas looking to *** what's sadly become the status quo. It think its funny (but actually really sad) that some have assumed you weren't male, little less a black male because... you think before you speak or whatever other reason. Insulting, ain't it? Much respect to you and others like, Whatanidiot, Esotericdredz, and Mayfield1970, and others who speak with positive words through enlightened views. Antidumb, your words in this thread, though, seem a little spiteful. I know its tiring to constantly repeat yourself to people who refuse to believe that you're for real, but tough love might come off as more than spiteful to some which could turn them off of what you're really speaking on. ...Just sayin'.
(Speaking of which)
@Conscious1, what more needs to be said to prove to you that not all men's minds are not controlled by the so-called "power of the P.*.S.S.Y"?? For the last time, False. Well, okay, there are some dudes who only look to ride till they die, and if that's what a woman is looking for, then that's them. But its just wrong to generalize most men as too mentally weak to have the patience and humility to steer their own *** drive.
Don't get me wrong, we think about a lot of, uh, different stuff when we look at a woman. But its not like we're looking to dive right in because of Lust at first sight.
Your question about "making love" to "lil'" booties and "beatin up" "big" ones, I guess highlights a deeper misrepresentation in today's society. Its not a solid truth, but for the most part, when rough *** is the topic of a music video, you usually see more big featured women. When making love is the topic, better-dressed women are featured. Taking those images into the real-world, big-featured women will tend to be looked at more lustfully and less respectfully. Don't know if that answers your question or brings up even more, but that's all I got for now. I personally don't care either way cause, like I said, its not the first thing on my mind.
If women are under the impression that they need big this or a big that to attract a man who will look past those features, and into their hearts and souls, then they're on the wrong page. Its one thing to show a little of what you got because you have it, but its another to base your whole existence around it. And for real, its even less attractive to some to see a woman think, dress, or act that way. To much is given, much is taken, and when what you (think you've) got is gone (what's Lola gonna do when gravity strikes), then what do you got?
I know it might come off as sweet, but its the size of a girl's HEART, shape of her CHARACTER, and the way her SPIRIT moves that matters in the shaping of a woman.