To Amber I am one of those "hypocrites" you are referring to. I exhibit hypocrisy when it comes to the "swirl" for several reasons. Let me explain:
I don't know the current numbers on IRR marriages, but a couple of years ago approximatly 90% of Black/non-Black marriages composed of the male being Black. Many of these Black men are educated and/or successful. Why do I care? We all know that many Black men are in the penal system, and many don't live to see the age of 30. When all that factors in, there aren't that many descent Black men around. So when I see a Black men with a non-Black female, I do sometimes get upset. These marriages often last, and the Black father "sticks around" and is usually involved in his kids life, little league, soccer, class trips, etc. So many mixed children will have the benefit of having a loving father in the home. This isn't the case for many "all Black" childen. These children will often grow up in poverty and/or father-less, which effects us all. Many of these successful Black men act as though having a White woman will show the world that they have really made it, as if a Black female is somehow less worthy than a White woman. If one takes a look around coorperate America they will see way more Black Women than Black males. So that theory about not enough educated sistas is b.s.
So when I see a Black women with a White man I get happy. I am happy that she has found someone, and won't have to spend her time searching for a Black Mr. right. I prefer Black men, but if you see me with a non-Black male it's because he approached me and was talking right, not because I think he somehow makes me look more successful.