: Ain't this some mess ...
She thought one day...the trend in hollywood is to get a black child. So maybe I will get one too. Then she realized she would have to feed him, clothe him, put a roof over his head, put the kid in school, get them medical care, provide them with some sense of their history and where they come from and merge that with their culture. Now sometimes kids don't bond with certain people. Not all students bond with their teachers, but adopting a kid is a major decision. And you don't just pick one up like you are picking up some milk. A lot of thought has to go into it.
Lets thank the Lord for saving this babies life!!! this nutcase of a "adopted mother" is a loser the fact that she says the baby didn't bond baffles me, poor child right about now he's probably lookin' for her warmth..in the long run the baby will be better off not getting to bond even more with this stupid B!! Lets hope in the future he doesn't come lookin' for her and strangle her as a thank you gift for rejecting him for the secoind time in his life!
Liar,Liar her conscience is on fire! Sure their are children who are in the child welfare system that have been emotionally scarred from abuse that they may have suffered in the past. This background of abuse can surely affect their personalities, behavior or trust in future caretakers when they are hurting and fearful of the world,but with TIME,LOVE,EFFORT,INTENSIVE COUNSELING,COMPASSION AND LOTS OF PATIENCE then any child will bond with their adoptive parent. Even when parents have their own biological child they soon learn the child TAKES more love than it GIVES!!!!! 4u2.com
whatwhatwhat Flag post She couldn't handle all the stares from the white people. Hopefully this kid finds a true, loving family. Not some woman looking for a trophy child. ********** @whatwhatwhat- I agree. What does she mean the baby didn't "bond" with her?! She was probably tired of white people in her neighborhood staring at her. Po' thang.
I'm relieved that he is too young to remember this incident. I can't be too harsh towards her since I know so many people who don't want their biological children. Also, my aunt's adopted son never bonded with her since she was such a tyrant. He would always fantasize that his real mother would come rescue him. They rarely speak now that he is an adult, but he seems very close to his biological mother.
she's pathetic, what the fukk did u think, this child already went thru hell b4 the age of one and i guess u think, oh yeah, i'll be the savior and the child was suppose to just love u to death automatically, please u just didnt want a blk kid, he's not a piece of garment where u think u can just return him, just leave our race alone and trying fixing ur own damn race cause yall have the same issue, Y R NOT OUR SAVIOR!!!
The crazy thing is she never could say exactly what it was that made her feel they weren't "bonding" with the child, no matter how many times he asked and rephrased the question. That sounds very suspect...
Maybe she wouldn't be judged so hard if she could give examples. People have no choice but to think the worse if you can't even explain yourself
People like her shoudn't be allowed to have children or adopt. How could she get upset that a little child wouldn't bond with her? It's a child! If she truly cared, she would have tried to do her best and at least wait years to let the child bond with her. How immature is this woman? This kind of [EXPLETIVE] gets on my nerves. She should never be allowed to adopt again EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The color of the child has nothing to do with as we see that same color families can have the same experience. Do we stay in a bad marriage where there is no love or emotions? No. I think it was unselfish for her to go ahead early on and let go so that the child would have a better opportunity or chance in life. Imagine keeping the child. That child would have grown up heartless, feeling cold & distant with so many issues. She did the right thing. I believe that prospective adopted couples should go through fostering children up for adoption. When there is a match...go ahead w/adoption.
I saw this on the news the other day and I all I could do is SMH. You adopting the kid putting on a facade as if you really care and will provide him with a better life. Then you turn around and bail out on him because "there was no bond". GTFOH. Your just as bad as his biological parents (well if they gave him up for adoption, considering I don't know if they are alive or whatever the case). But she can go and kill herself after this B-S.
BREAK DOWN THE WALLS THAT SURROUNDS OUR VILLAGES,WE MUST ALL START TAKING CHARGE RAISING OF OUR OWN CHILDREN AND NOT EXPOSE THEM TO THE SOCIAL ENGINEERING THAT WAS DESIGNED TO STEAL OUR MEN FROM US, SO THEY COULD RAISE OUR CHILDREN THROUGH PROPOGANDA, LOANS,EDUCATION, DEBTS,MEDIA,FEMINISATION, HIP HOP. WHILE MENTALLY/ENSLAVING OUR MEN THROUGH FORCED INCARCERATION OR DRUGS, ANOTHER FORM OF DEPOPULATION ITS TIME TO RECLAIM BACK OUR COMMON- UNITY OR COMMUNITY
THIS STORY MAKES NO SENSE, MOST BABIES DON'T USUALLY BOND WITH THEIR OWN NATURAL MOTHERS SOMETIMES LET ALONE A STRANGER. THE ILLUSION ON TV OR ADVERTS IS ALSO MISLEADING, BABY BONDING COULD TAKE A WEEK OR UP TO SIX MONTHS OR MORE, USUALLY LONGER WITH FIRST TIME MOTHERS. PRIME EXAMPLE BROOKE SHIELDS, I'M GLAD SHE SPOKE OPENLY ABOUT IT,SOME WOMEN FEEL LIKE FAILURES BUT THIS IS PERFECTLY NORMAL. CELEBS DON'T HELP EITHER,THEY ALSO CREATE ANOTHER FALSE ILLUSION,THAT YOU CAN BE PERFECT AFTER BIRTH WITHIN DAYS, NOT ADMITTING TO EITHER HAVING CEASARIANS,LIPO,TUMMY TUCKS, ETC PLUS BABIES CAN ALWAYS S
I suppose her heart was in the right place at first but as far as her friends and family it wasn't a good look and that's sad because a baby will bound with whoever is taking (((GOOD)))care of them. Feeding/changing/cuddling is all they know so if a hobo took care of that baby (((WELL)))the baby would have bonded she's full of SH!T
Ok first of all she's not white, and secondly I feel so sorry for that baby. I really hope he's able to find a family that he can bond with and that will take care of him properly.
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well at least she tried to give a black child that was apparently in need a chance at something.so what she dropped shorty back of to them white folks.she could have done much worse to the kid.instead of blasting her,give her an A for effort.hell black folks dont even think about adopting our own so........
The color of his skin has nothing to do why she couldn't have him when you adopt you can choose or they will give you info on the baby, I think what she did was brave n needed she seen they had no conection so she wants him to have a family that does, it's better then realizin it n treating him like [EXPLETIVE]!!!
MTO, this is dumb. Plenty of people adopt kids every year and bring them back because of issues like this. Im sure that lady did not return the baby because he was black, but because the baby has so many issues because of its prior abuse that she could not handle. I know you idiots saw Losing Isaiah so you know what im talking about. You didn't listen to a word she said when she was talking about how his mother left him by the side of the road and he has physical and psychological issues because of it. Stop being so ignorant.
MTO STOP BEING RACIST. IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HER RACE. ANOTHER LADY (WHITE) ADOPTED 3 SISTERS (WHITE) AND SHE RETURNED ALL THREE B/C IT WASN'T A GOOD FIT. PEOPLE DO THIS ALL THE TIME. DON'T FORGET ABOUT BIOLOGICAL PARENTS THAT DO THE SAME THING WITH THEIR OWN. NOT SAYING IT'S RIGHT JUST SAYING IT'S NOT RACE.
FIRST OF ALL..... why would anyone in their right mind who already birthed 5 children adopt a sixth one......they should have done some psych evaluation on her.....second, thank god he got out of that home safely, you never know what people are capable of these days.....you don't know what her motive for adopting him was.....I hope this story gets so much publicity that a million wonderful , loving families apply to adopt this poor little baby! How sad for him.....If I was in the position I would do it....but my four are enough for this single mom thank u very much!!!
first off she is not white they just trying to make it seem worse secondly it happens i dnt think she should have kept him 18 months and then gave him back but you have to feel something for a child if your taking care of then because if not then you will end up resenting or regretting them i'm glad she gave him up rather than be annoyed and keep him around
She did not give a shyt about that baby. WTF DOES SHE MEAN WE JUST WEREN'T BONDING. THEN SHE SAYS SHE WAS NOT BONDING. BASICALLY she was sayiing I wasn't feeling the black baby. People were looking at me funny. Notice how vague she is. We just weren't bonding that is all she would say. No elaboration. Shows you how full of shyt white folks are. Oops I changed my mind. I want a Chinese baby. Maybe I can take this one back and exchange him
Like dude said ADOPTION ISN'T A RENTAL BYATCH. Like dude says, sometimes it can take years to bond. You give it all you've got for as long as you can.
She looks like an idiot. You can see there is more to it, but she is purposely being vague and ambivalent. I am glad she put her face out there so that adoption agencies will know not to 'RENT' a baby to this byatch again. Angelina Jolie...there is a baby who needs a good family. For 18 months he felt like he was part of this woman's family until she decided the 'rental' was up. He needs a good home-please consider.
FIRST OF ALL, SHES NOT WHITE, PROBABLY HISPANIC.
SECONDLY, I DONT SEE WHY SHE WANTED TO ADOPT A CHILD OF A DIFFERENT RACE, ITS GOIN TO BE HARD ON THE CHILD LATER ON IN LIFE.
FINALLY, YOU HATING MONKEYS NEED TO SHUT THE FCUK UP. I DONT SEE ANY OF YOU MORONS OUT THERE TRYING TO ADOPT ORPHANS OF YOUR OWN RACE. INSTEAD YOU'LL WASTE YOUR TIME & MONEY ON BULLISH. YOU IMBECILES ARE QUICK TO JUDGE OTHERS, SO GO OUT THERE & ADOPT A FCUKING CHILD. PIECES OF ISH...
Black, Hispanic, Chinese, Mongolian...it doesn't matter. The fact of the matter is, she adopted a baby, knowing full well what adoption entails and one day decided....ah I don't want the kid. There is more to it than what she is telling, and the fact that they wasted 18 months of this kids time where he thought he had a permanent home, and he probably was growing attached to her and her kids, then to turn around and put the kid out, is asinine. I firmly believe it has a lot to do with the kids skin color and ethnicity.
If they are both hispanic then it can't have shyt to do with ethnicity....more so because the baby was so dark skinned...but even more than that this woman already has 3 or 4 kids from natural birth and her husband is in the military...it probably became to overwhelming for her and she did a Sarah Palin...she quit like a punk b*tch
To the obvious beaner up above...I think your people live more like monkeys than any other race heffe...10 people to one shack all eating on the same rooster and shyt
Well if she had so many kids, her husband is in the military or whatever the excuse is....WHY THE F--- ADOPT. She already knows what raising a child requires. It isn't as if this is her first hayride. Adopting a child is a very long process, are you telling me her and her husband had no time to consider the consequences. That is bullshyt. Then to put the child in your home, and have him grow and interact with your family for 18 months then turn around and put him out is idiotic, especially after such a long process to adopt the kid in the first place. I hope they find him a stable/perm. home.
this biitch is full of shiit. first off, thats not a pair of jeans is a HUMAN BEING. you cant just return it because it doesnt fit you anymore.
you only had the baby for like what a year? are you serious? you have to give time for a bond, it doesnt happen over night.
you know what youre getting into when you sign those papers. it seems like since her husband is gone shes bored and wanted to do some wild shiit...her husband may have told her ass to send him back or she realized she couldnt handle it
at the end of the day you just played with a childs life. youre a fcuking waste.
Something happened in the home to change her mind. Something happened in the streets and in her day to day walk, that changed her mind. It's called Racism. Her heart may have started in the RIGHT place, but she never PREPARED herself for the psychological impact that comes with having a lone black child in the home, and in the community. Where did she live? Did she live in rural white america? Did she live in an uppermiddle class white neighborhood that frowned on her, stared at her, and made her feel inferior. Is her husband possibly white? where is he?He is in the military. Did he flip out? Why is she protecting his identity? Did he say, Hell naw! get rid of that negro baby'! Someone dropped the ball. Not ALL white people are pure when it comes to address race. Some have hidden racial views that spew out when they are forced to face it. Something or SOMEONE frowned upon the FITTING in of this poor child. TO BLAME the child, rather than to address the PREJUDICES is like sweeping dust under the sofa. I think this is what happened.Shame on her for not confronting this issue.
People adopting children and then terminating the adoption is not something unusual. It actually happens a lot.
The kid is probably better off NOT being raised by this woman. This lady is kinda weak. I dont really know how you can tell if a baby that young is bonding.
Her decision to adopt was probably more of an emotional decision. You know how bad those can turn out. She probably realized at some point that she really didnt wanna raise another child for 20 years. Or maybe it was putting more of a financial strain on the family then they realized it would. Especially in these time
mrcritic1 Flag post FIRST OF ALL, SHES NOT WHITE, PROBABLY HISPANIC.
SECONDLY, I DONT SEE WHY SHE WANTED TO ADOPT A CHILD OF A DIFFERENT RACE, ITS GOIN TO BE HARD ON THE CHILD LATER ON IN LIFE.
===== I'd say BOTH. She is mixed with both.Married to a white man, more than likely. And living in a white area that is NOT very open about a negro male child being RAISED in their neck of the woods is my guess. They probably called him a MONKEY , just like you did in your blog.
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Even though we dont really know what happened. I do agree that those reasons you've given could be possibilities. What does her husband being in the millitary have anything to do with this?
Maybe he didnt know the race of the baby, and when he found out he wasnt having it. Maybe her family wasnt supportive.
Like I said before, this lady is real weak. And, she's trying put blame on the child.
BTW. We're really not sure this child is black. THIS IS MTO. He could be hispanic.
Oh, and isnt obvious that this woman is reading something prewritten in the initial interview
Im glad that she found him a new home because she is a looney tune.
Children are not show monkeys that have to laugh and giggle to get to you to love them.
Having children are a very selfless thing and you shouldn't have a child to give you a connection. You shouldnt play with his emotions like that.
Especially with children who are adopted. This child has never had a connection with anyone else so why would you think he will have a "connection" with you.
And 3 months isnt long enough to develop a "connection."
We are going through the process to adopt a child. We have had her since she was 7 months old and now she is 16 months. The social worker has been a jerk throughout the process. She is know going back to her bio-father which we disagree but she has "put us in our place." We have accepted the fact. It is easy to throw stones. I hope some of you will decided to adopt and not just sit on the fence and talk about others. There is a shortage of adoptive black families.
First of all, people should not adopt, if they cannot afford, don't have time, are too busy, don't really want to be bothered, don't have the basic necessities to take care of a child. Adoption is great, but if you look at the economy today-who can afford another kid-except those who seem to pop them out like tic tacs. I keep reading people saying why don't any of us adopt. Maaaaan half of us can barely care for ourselves, many of us already have kids and don't need an extra mouth to feed, and many don't want kids but donate their time to by volunteering w/projects geared towards children. So I feel you don't necessarily have to adopt in order to contribute. I volunteer w/ Child Advocates here in my city. What this woman and her husband did were very wrong. They should have known from jump they really did not have the time, energy or means to take in another child. I still say her statement sounds like an excuse for some greater underlying issue she doesn't want to say-WHY-BECAUSE most likely it is controversial and the reason would really cause a problem for them and the way people view them.
'It seems anita (the adoptive parent) is not an emotionally stable person to began with, listinig to her talk I sense her need to be a hero as well as a victem, but the truth is Anita is a fantasizer..who makes herself out to be a hero, but when reality sets in she quickly moves over to the victems circle and cries wolf for the sake of saving face. Only messed up part is that she used this child as a prop in one of her many twisted performances. Someone give that trick an oscar
oohh please his real mother dumped him to the curve, whos to blame his real stupid mother, im telling ya black mothers are unfitt mothers, its digusting, i always see ya black woman beatin ya kids n stuff, and ya have like 10 babby daddys dammm ya need to be adults, fuc dat, she tried top care for this baby...
Shes a Moron...Obviously he had emotional problems. 18 months is not long enough for a child to bond with a stranger. So shes gonna mess up his life even further...of course you failed him. Maybe she was more scared of what people thought of her having a black child and all. How can you love a child but get rid of him so easily...thats not love, not at all. The sad truth is that being a black child the in the system the older you get the less likely you are to be adopted...most white couples dont want to raise a black child. Black children have the lowest adoption rate of any race.
@Jenn69 you are poor exscuse of a human being you need to just close your account and shut your self and your freaking house now if i said its dumb ppl like you have suicidal kids that bring guns to school because white ppl dont know how to raise their kids then id be wrong. I'm a BLACK woman with a son that is making it to this day because he recieve whoppings. you need to get your facts straight cuz number one their are more single WHITE WOMAN with children on WELFARE then black woman stupid trick
jenn69 need to shut the [EXPLETIVE] up. so what black people beat their kids, most white people let their damn kids control them like [EXPLETIVE] dummies. my mother nor any other mother that i kno is unfit. my mother raised me right, im 21, no kids, own apartment, work full time, and in college, while u probably sit on your back doing nothing but looking for a rich man to come save your ass!!.
Why is this news! This lady clearly has to many children of her own( 6+), how she though that she could take on any baby no matter the race, with a husband thats in the military i dont know! I am a military family and i know her husband is hardly home, and thats stressful, he also most likely joined the military to pay for all their kids. You know insurance, rent, bills etc. The military pays for all that, she doesnt even seem like shes fully american, she seems like shes from europe or russia, because of her accent. I just pray that the baby gets a better chance with this new family.
where they do this at??? N they gave her air time on the Today show?? ugh!! idk whas wrong with this lady...that baby isn't propery, a real child with real feelings...ugh She reurturned that baby like he was an impulse buy!! Anything worthwhile is worth workin at. Is she gonna give up on her own?! i'm disgusted!!
