: MediaTakeOut.com learned that comedian Mo’Nique’s own brother was on Oprah the other day. And dude admitted to molesting Mo. The animal, named Gerald Imes was allowed to sit on Oprah’s couch and explain why a 13 year old boy FEELS THE NEED to molest his 7 year old sister.
Gerald told Oprah, "I abused and betrayed the trust of another sibling, my sister, my blood sister . . . I'm sorry, Mo'Nique. I'm sorry." And he added, "Hopefully somewhere, somehow as siblings we can come back together as brother and sister."
Well Gerald is gonna have to wait for HELL TO FREEZE OVER before Mo forgives his ROTTEN TO THE CORE azz. Here are some excerpts from Mo’Nique’s old interviews where she giver her side of thes tory:
“I was molested by my older brother. And even when I confronted him and told my parents, he said I was lying, and nothing was really done . . . My father was very upset, but it never got mentioned again. I'll never forget my mother saying, 'If it's true, it will surface again,' and I remember thinking, 'Why would I lie? Why is there even an if in this?' I was angry with them for so long, because I felt as if they should have seen what was happening. . . My brother was a monster to me."And just in case you think that her brother was JUST A CHILD when it happened. Check out what happened when Mo approached him as an adult:
"(He said) if you think I did something wrong then I'm sorry." But she has had nothing to do with her brother since her twins were born: "He held one of the twins and at that moment I had a conversation with my brother, and we have not spoken since then."
Gee . . . wonder why he didn't just apologize in private. I mean, why did he have to go on Oprah to do it. Maybe he's looking to get a reality show or something . . .
He said he too was molested and never told who. Sad, but like in so many homes people deny hide and cover it up instead of trying to heal. Sad, cause *** are the worst at sweeping *** like this under the rug..... well Mo, God is taking care of you now, forgive but never forget and hell now you cant come round my babies and children!!!
I think that she should have at least told them that she was going to reveal on 20/20 that she was molested by her older brother and what the outcome was within her family. To me she went Hollywood and made Precious and it opened up some old wounds. But out of respect as for her mother and Father she should have discussed this so they could have prepared themselves for what they are in for from the public. Monique is the one with the Oscar and the one of tv not her family. To me Monique needs to practice what she preaches every ***.
Looks likes he's trying to benefit from her success in some way. I'm sure that's what it is. Shame on her parents for not dealing with the problem when it was happening, and worse, for making her feel guilty about speaking the truth. Families can be so disgusting to their own, it's sickening. She should have nothing more to do with these people, nothing good can come of it. Move on and keep your chin up.
this is very disturbing and unfortunate, this nhigga wants to be forgivin by the victim (his sister). This sick *** needs to get the *** up out chea and *** him self. How you gone molest your little sister. This nhigga playing sad, he probably wanna ask her for some money the *** need to get both hands cut off. That nhigga probably ruined other lifes including his own little sister.
i must say it takes a whole lot of guts to go on national television and on a very popular talk show and admit to millions of viewers that u used to rape yo sista, is something many molesters are afraid to do. that is sick why in da *** would u molest anybody let alone your own sista? this *** should have been dealt with a long time ago, .cont'd
the other day i was listening to steve harvey radio show and they was talkin bout this and come to find out that Monique is not the only female he molested in his life, he molested his stepdaughter on numerous occasions threaten her life by dangling her from her feet out a two story apartment building, who know how many other females he molested , cause if he molested his own sister , then he would molest any female, im glad he came on national tv so millions can see this ugly *** and know not bring his *** around they kids
The parents had the nerve to say on Oprah, "Monique *** have went public and they could've taken care of it in house". They didn't do anything for their daughter when she told them at a much younger age so what makes them think she was going to come to them again. Her brother said that he was on drugs at eleven. If I was Oprah I would've asked the parents, "Where were you when this was going on"? Their son was on drugs while their daughter was getting molested.
Why did her parents forsake her?? Someone mentioned earlier the Steve Harvey show and how her brother molested other females he was related to. This woman went to her parents as a child to let them know what her brother had done to her and they pretended it didn't happen. How could you!! That's sick and sad.
Forgiving another for his or her sexual misconduct towards you, and actually feeling forgiveness is hard ... and may never be achieved. A man .. or woman .. who rapes another can only get true forgiveness from God. The ability for a person to completely forgive someone and move past the abuse, where if it is ever mentioned or spoken of, it does not make you feel sick to your stomach and inside your spirit ... now that is the ultimate achievement on the part of a person who has been victimized. Only a victim can know this pain, only God can make you whole again!
I agree with the woman 100%
TenderNC I think that she should have at least told them that she was going to reveal on 20/20 that she was molested by her older brother and what the outcome was within her family. To me she went Hollywood and made Precious and it opened up some old wounds. But out of respect as for her mother and Father she should have discussed this so they could have prepared themselves for what they are in for from the public. Monique is the one with the Oscar and the one of tv not her family. To me Monique needs to practice what she preaches every ***.
Shameful! The nerve of her brother. He waited all of this time to apologize to his sister. It's funny how people wanna come out of no where when your on top. I hope he asked the most high for redemption because he need it. I am sorry this had to happen to Mo'Nique, but I'll never like her anymore. She's a sellout. But I do wish her and her family the best of luck.
I saw the interview, and O asked hym how old he was at the tyme and how old Mo was at the tyme, and he said he was 13 and she was 7.....Am I the only one who saw the interview and saw them show an excerpt from Mo's 20/20 interview where she told Barbara Walters that her brother was TEN YEARS OLDER THAN HER?! So the piece of slime LIED when he said he was 13 and she was 7.....If she was 7, then he was FRICKIN 17 YEARS OLD AND FULLY CAPABLE OF KNOWING WHAT HE WAS DOING!...Whether he was molested or not. *side eye 2 THAT EXCUSE*
i saw the interview on oprah last ***. i hope he is sincere about his apology and not because he is trying to get something from monique. also, i hope he has received the help he need for his demons. i hope she will forgive him because if she doesn't he still has that power over her. i pray that they all can get through this.
If he is coming from a sincere place then hell yeah she should forgive him. That had to be hard to admit. I think everyone deserves forgiveness if the person is sincere. You dont have to deal with them or forget what happened but for your own salvation, forgive!!! Monique put it out there. Otherwise we wouldnt know.
TO those of you who are saying she should forgive him. I am going to assume you all have never been raped or molested. I watched the interview last ***,. Anhnd her brother was not Sincere. Her other brother acted as if Monique was the Villan and oh boy was the victim. For those of you saying she should have warned him before going on 20/20 ***‼ did he warn her before molesting her? HELL NO‼
Her family are attention ***. I don't blame her for not speaking to any of her family. I wouldn't either.
This goes on in black families all the the sweeping it under the rug. Then we grow up and act it out on others. I blame the Mother she didn't even know when it actually happen to her own daughter until recently. Monique felt stupid and betrayed when nothing happen. Her other brother who I seen before with Monique. I wonder did Monique cut him off to.
The family seems like they have unresolved issues that need taking care of. It really explains why Monique is so outspoken and the way she is now.
first off i aint defendin no molester... but as far as forgiveness goes thets up 2 mo *** she has already forgiven him... as far as him *** out PUBLICLY well mo discussed dis issue PUBLICLY so i c no prob *** thet... & from wut i heard they all actually had mo's blessin ta go on oprah, so... but still he wrong iz *** for thet, but we havta remember deze kinda ppl r either sick r have learned dis behavior from bein molested themselves *** dey both were still kids... i just hope dey BOTH get/got tha help dey need/needed...
MissAmerica1 if they are not attention *** , why did they go on National TV in front of a live audience and air out they dirty laundry? they could have did that *** in private. yet they chose to go on live television and let the whole world know that they swept this *** up under the rug. and u say u dealt with child molestation ? u probably swept that under the rug too. but then again u are a christian so im not suprised
Yes an attention ***....This women has been saying she was molested by her brother for YEARS. And now all of a sudden you have to come on national TV to apologize. He could have sent her an email. He could have went through her publicist or mailed her a letter. He ddint do any of that he got on National TV to so call Apologize. Thats ***.
I watched that sh!t in horror - He's a filthy mess! I can't believe the whole family & clergy went on the show for some fame!?! He's denying that he's a monster and tried to repremand Oprah when she was speaking from her own experience; He's the victim!!! I dont blame Mo'Nique for cuttin them all off. Ma & Pa are cosigning? They are confused, because she had to live her life on the inside of they're crazy @ss family.... GOD is blessing her in spite of them; Nobody knew who he was outside of close friends and family ~ Now you want to come out and apologize for the world to know but couldn't b4?
To make matters worse he was a repeat offender serving time for doing the sh!t to someone else's child! When your an adult it's called sexual assault or harassment; When it comes to a child it's molestation. He's sick so is the family. They should lock his @ss back up for having the gall to call the Oprah show for the interview. I'm too sure Mo'nique is through. Simple ***
i watched the show and i didnt like the fact of the dumb@ss brother smiling and ***... whata dbag!! I also didnt like the fact of the mother and father cuttn oprah off tryna prove themselves right everytime she was trying to let them know what they were sayn was insane!! and why didnt oprah ask him where the hell he was getting all this liquor, cocaine, etc.. did the parents not notice that there 11 yr old son was on drugs they just cant notice anything now can they?
ol' nasty behind...I do think forgiveness should take place... forgiveness is not for the perpertrator but for the victim...you gotta release him and that can only be done through forgiveness..and it doesn't mean to be in a relationship with him...it means to release him right along with the pain it has caused to you so you can be a whole and healthy individual...love you Mo'nique wishing you all the best...brotha man you are disgusting stay away from the kids...nasty behind .
and another d@mn thing, the parents knew about the molesting of the sister they could have prevented the *** from happening to the other little girl. ughhh this is so sickening they all standing behind this d@mn monster like he so innocent!! they kept sayn he did it while he was a kid he wasnt a kid when he molested the other girl.. what @holes the whole fam is ***.. monique needs to forgive them but forget them as well!!
Yall some ignorant fake *** on this ***...*** near everybody when they was young humped on their cousins or something....At 13 a man is goin through puberty and he's gonna hump on who ever in the way(boy or gurl). No it doesnt make it right,but he still was a child!...half of yall grown baby daddys act like they 13, by not wanting to spend time with his kids,but u still *** wit dat ***.....
Monique should never have PUBLICLY outted her brother!! That was ghetto and very tacky. Talking about your molestation is one thing..but OTHERS that have done so, do not ANNOUNCE to the world the person's identity. THAT WAS MEAN! SHE ruined him..so he HAD to come forward.Yes, what he did was wrong, but to OUT him to the world was tacky.She could have simply stated that a family member molested me. Or that i experienced molestation. There was no real NEED to identifiy her brother. I was turned off to hear her whining to Barbara Walters..airing her dirty laundry for attention. uuugh I think MONIQUE only did this to broaden her horizons and strengthen her career. Just like Oprah and her sad molestation stories, it serves to be a good tear jerker, and can be quite compelling. White america loves to sympathize with it. So, while Monique may have been touched by her brother, i find the timing around ANNOUCING it to be quite convenient. It is NOT necessary to air your dirty laundry Barbara Walters...and as a result forcing your brothers and parents to go on OPRAH. Monique was wrong. She owes her brother forgiveness and an apology ,in my oppinion.
@ baldwin village...
THANK YOU! You are KEEPING IT REAL! lol . It happens. it is called hormonal changes,growth, and immaturity. As a young kid you are just not aware. It happened to me. My mom and dad would ex plain to us ...and say... CUT it out! Even little 2 year olds mimic it..in innocence. which explains why her brother, in innocence, felt he had done nothing wrong. It all seemed normal and innocent. How scarred was she ..when she continued to be close to him...up until the Barbara Walters interview? Now , all of a sudden she is so scarred...and needs to talk about it.
I think she should forgive him, but she never has to tell him! Just to for her own peace of mind. I'm not sure how to feel because they both were kids, and it s not unheard of for sibling/cousins to get experimental. The parents are supose to be there and stop things from escalating. Ultimately it's the parents fault. My opinion.
He also was molested as a child and unfortunally the cycle doesn't end in those kinds of cases, but my question is, where the hell were the parents, both children get molested and one is on drugs?? SMH But Mo should forgive him (if she hasn't already) and just move on, I mean as far as having a relationship with him, I can't go as far as to say that, if that were me that would be out of the question. But forgiveness if always good, really it would be for herself, because HATING takes way too much energy....
THIS MAN WAS "ALSO" MOLESTED. DID YOU ALL MISS THAT PART??????? PEOPLE ARE SO CAUGHT UP IN THE CELEBRITY-BEING MONIQUE- AND HER VERSION OF THE STORY AND FORGOT THAT HE SAID, SOMEONE WAS MESSING WITH HIM..,,,AS WELL. EARLY NEGATIVE INTRODUCTION TO SEXUALITY CAN DISTORT A CHILD. THIS MAN,THAT YOU ALL ARE CALLING A MONSTER WAS JUST A BOY.AND A VICTIM, AS WELL. A BOY WHO NEEDED GUIDANCE. IF ANYONE IN HERE CAN TELL ME THAT THEY ARE DONE RAISING THEIR CHILDREN AT 13..AND ALL IS WELL..THEN I'LL CHILL.13 IS A YOUNG *** CHILD IN NEED OF...ONGOING PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND SUPPORT..FOR AT LEAST 5 OR 6 MORE YEARS. 13 IS THE INTRODUCTION OF PUBERTY!!
I think she should forgive him. When you forgive someone for doing something terrible to you - YOU FEEL BETTER. For him to get in front of America - admit what he did and ask for forgiveness is all the man can do to make up for what he has done. He can't go back and take it back - but he can ask for forgiveness. And to ask for it in front of America - seems as sincere as he can get. It's up to her - though.
@ fire4u I would like you to walk in on your children humping on each other and laugh about it. OMG are ya'll serious? "this is just natural" Thats a bunch of BS. Its people like you that allows the cycle to continue because its just the innocence of a so called child. A child who knew where to touch and how to lie.
If this was u and the media how would u feel every day someone watching u and judging u.I watched the show clearly he was molested by some one.So he molested her he was asking for forgiveness Mo and her brother still had a wonderful relationship she would still call him like a little sister should.The mother did beleive her and she put him out.I guess when he returned everything went back to normal.And u all who are judging ye with out sin cast the first stone.He admited to molesting his step daugter to.The Family break up was not evan related to this incident.
listen u little black monkey. i could give a rats arse if u are one or not. ***.a all im saying keep ur f*cking mouth *** about what i write. cause if we were in the streets i would *** it for u. little trout mouth heathing. keep ur double breasted lip ***. i can talk mad *** on the computer. but i can also keep in gangster in the streets. trust me when i tell u. so *** it up...
@NOLA Peach...
I am not saying that it is normal, only that is "hormonal". Yes it happens. My best friend has a boy, and i have a girl... age...9 and 10. They grew up together as play mates. this lil man has tried a couple of times to kiss my child in the mouth...rub her...etc...even kids at school. A teacher called and told me that a lil hispanic boy hunched on her while she was on the swingset trying to swing. I was livid! But Is the child a molester? No. He is a *** kid.So what i am saying is we need to seperate your UNCLE RAY RAY abusing you as a grown man, from a child that is hunching and premature in his arousal. Parents need to talk to their kids..at an appropriate age.Parents need to teach the children that hormone development will cause arousal..and the appropriate way to deal with it. Sounds like back in the day, these type things slipped throught the cracks..or were ignored. None the less, kids are kids..and are ofen unaware and not in control of hormones
Nola peach...
there is not contradiction.Don't reduce my comments down to "children having fun". That's unfair. Bottome line is, the brother never revealed that his molester was another child. His molester may have been an adult. My point is that "children" are not child molesters. They need parenting.If he was 13, and the perpetrater is 13 as well....then in my oppinion, it sounds like some parents need to PARENT their kids...who are responding to their puberty or hormones. Again, that is my point.
Its discusting when people say move on, how? That abuse stays in the mind even subconsciously and sometimes dictates ones sexual attractions and choice of mate, it has the potential to break a person down
Why do you think people get so much time in jail when found guilty of this sort of crime? The innocence of a child has been taken away from them and in a sense the soul dies. ITS MURDER
How one chooses to channel or tunnel this anger, rage, sadness, emptiness, and all the other feelings associated with being molested is in the individual and their mentality but NO ONE GETS OVER IT, EVER...
THERE ARE NO WORDS TO DISCRIBE HOW MUCH OF A LOW LIFE THIS DUDE IS...AND HER PARENTS ARE JUST AS LOW..IF NOT LOWER!
I WOULD NEVER SPEAK TO THEM EVER AGAIN...AND I WOULD MAKE EXTRA SURE I MOVED FAR AWAY FROM THEM SO I WOULD NEVER "RUN IT TO" THEM AGAIN IN LIFE!
AND I WOULD ASK GOD TO FORGIVE MY RESENTMENT BUT, I'M HUMAN.
@ fire4 u, You're right parents need to parent their children. But I believe @ 13 you knows right from wrong. He knew it was wrong to touch his sister. He denied it when it was brought to the light. The part in the interview that people seemed to have missed is that Mo's brother claimed that it was only "recently" he decided to acknowledge his molesting his sister.
Ok so heres a question. Whats the excuse for behavior in adult hood? Had He had a mid life crisis? Is he behavior exused now?
THIS RAPIST MOLESTER DENIED HIS ACTONS UP UNTIL THIS YEAR. YOU CALL THAT BEING SINCERE? GTFOH! FORGIVE HIM WITHIN YOUR HEART BUT TO SAY SHE NEEDS TO MOVE ON IS LUDICROUS! TAKE CARE OF IT "IN HOUSE" WHEN THE *** HOUSE IS IN DEINAL. FCKIN IDIOTS. MOTHER AND FATHER ASKING, THEY WANT TO KNOW WHEN DID HE BECOME A MONSTER. OPRAH SAID, THE FIRST TIME HE TOUCHED HER. DUMB AZZES WHERE LOOKING STUPID IN THE FACE..
MissAmerica1 Fire4u I agree but Oprah doesnt go around announcing who her molester was. She simply says its a family member. And she brings awareness to the situation which happens way more often than we acknowledge!! ========= RIGHT. that's what i am saying. Monique "outted" this brother..and called out his name. She should have said FAMILY member . Nothing was gained from this humiliation..other than gossip, fingerpointing, and humilation toward her family. Whom she does not even speak to. How can you live on GOD's earth and ignore your own parents?She threw them all under the bus. If she revealed this to be theraupeutic and help others..why did she refuse to appear on Oprah?Fogive them and move on. She is on her 3rd marriage..and seems to be a pained woman...because she is holding on to anger and the past. She even admitted to agreeing to an OPEN marriage ...so i am thinking that they all need therapy.
All these child molesters need to be put on blast. I saw this yesterday and that man did not even act sad. His whole family was like "yea, it was bad, but its time to come together as a family." HELL NO. You don't just "come together" with a MAN WHO MOLESTED YOU. And that older brother just sat there grinning. They are some *** up ppl to not understand how much that hurts someone and ppl don't just "get over it."
@ Nola peach.. Ok so heres a question. Whats the excuse for behavior in adult hood? Had He had a mid life crisis? Is he behavior exused now? ----------- Often the excuse is that they were touched as children. I personally, do not condone it from an adult under any ***. Which is why i am ONLY addressing his apparent age at the time of his abuse against Monique. According to reports, he wasw a child as well. Nip it in the bud as children. Clearly someething must have happened to him as a child, as he stated to Oprah. But because Monique is Oprah's friend and a celebrity, the ONLY victim seems to be Monique. Children are abused everyday. Monique should thank God for today, and for her wealth and sucess. She overcame. Be thankful and d move on
@fire4u Mo'nique owes the man who raped her an apology because she outed him!???? You cannot be serious! Why is it an on-nous on Mo'nique to protect a child molester?! Her brother is not the victim in the situation. Anyone who molests a child should be publicly humiliated and put in jail point blank.
This is ALL part of Oprah's AGENDA, MORE than it is about Monique's "healing".
Oprah needs some SERIOUS therapy and needs to stop shoving her weight and molestation issues down America's throats every other day.
And I agree with fire4u about him being only 13 and about how he was molested himself. There is a HUGE difference between a 13 yr old hormonal teen and a grown man.
Futhermore, WE SAW 'PRECIOUS', WE GET THE POINT!
bourgie_girl fire4u, so what if she did call out her brother?! He and every child molester needs to be called out. Acting like Mo'nique is in the wrong is a sad example of blaming the victim ------------- sigh...THERE are two victims!! He clearly stated in the interview that he himself was molested by someone. Many people have been molested. Celebrities are in the spotlight and should use their celebrity to upbuild.Not fingerpoint, when it is convenient for them. She never said a word until now. He has paid his dues to society, apologized to her, been humiliated on Oprah,had his elderly parents humiliated and interrogated by Oprah, and is now known world wide as a molester. Would you like to hang him from a tree now?
A 13 year old boy in middle school KNOWS right from wrong. You know @ that age that you're not supposed to do anything sexual with anyone PERIOD whether it be with a 7 year old or a 14 year old. There is no excuse for this @ all.......
Some of the comments on this thread is flawed to the max. Its no wonder children are getting molested left and right and parents are denying their children protection or consequence to ones actions when something like this happends, with that "kids are going to be kids" attitude you're likely to have a situation such like this......
Even if he was molested and acted out as a child, that is no excuse for going on to molest 2 other children after he was grown. Also, just because he served time doesn't mean he is better now. She tried to talk to him about but he didn't apologize then so why is he doing it now? Also, if you haven't been molested and then had your family not believe you, then you can't judge her for going public. It seems as though her family was not going to deal with it otherwise. Now two other children's lives are affected. We should pray for them all.
bourgie_girl @fire4u Mo'nique owes the man who raped her an apology because she outed him!???? You cannot be serious! ---------- Yes, i am serious. Because i believe that her motives were based on being in that movie. She sits down and cries to Barbara Walters..(like all the white celebs do)...and then uses the molestation to explain why she played the "Mary" role so well. It seems quite convenient. I've heard it all before.blah blah.. Her parents said that she seemed fine. My thing is, this is your brother. Forgive him. Don't throw him under the bus, for fame and an interview.
@ MISS HUGRAD..
Whew! Thank you. I so agree. I wish people would stop looking at this just on the surface. Deeply rooted in this issue is a child's hormones, and his introduction to sexuality. Most black parents do not even know how to discuss with their young black boys how to react to a "hard on". what it means...etc...They have these young boys as single moms..and leave them out to be raised by what they "learn" from peers , tv, and dirty movies that were left hanging around in the dvd player. lol
@missugrad As a victim of sexual abuse, my comment was not surface. In my family I have seem some who were abused go on to do it to others, and some people just can't get over. It's called having morals. Just because someone did it to me, I would never dream of doing it to someone else. Also, my daughter is seven and if she told me someone did it to her, there would be no doubt and it would gety dealt wit ASAP.
@ fire4u - Check yourself. I'm sensing a disturbing lack of empathy here. There's no way that Monique would come out with something like this for attention. Can you imagine her shame? If the family are still even now unwilling to admit where they went wrong, what else is she supposed to do? You're calling her tacky, ghetto, mean. You even say that SHE ruined him. Anyone who abuses children, deserve to be outed. If more people were outed, molesters and rapists would think twice about perpetrating abuse on others. Remember, as a grown man, he went on to abuse (at least) one other child. Love Nolapeach.
fire4u
SO WHAT if she used it to explain how she played it so well? Obviously her acting in Precious came from a place, and she happened to share where it came from. Yes, people who are molested as children sometimes go on to molest others, but that doesn't excuse all child molesters; yet and still, she was molested by this man. Being molested effects you for the rest of your life. You may bury those feelings deep but they manifest in some way. I can't believe you're actually blaming the victim in the situation.
@fire4u, misshugrad, focusfocus, baldwinvillage(ESPECIALLY YOU!). No one said Mo didn't FORGIVE HIM! You all are sick for excusing a man of RAPING HIS OWN SISTER WHO WAS A CHILD! Talking stupidness about how his hormones caused him to be sexually aroused! WTF kind of stupid logic is that? Even if that was the case you know not to first off rape a child and especially one that's your own flesh and blood! So that proves two things to me - he's a pedophile and sick monster.
He's only now partially acknowledging what he did because he was outed. It looks as though this family have lived so long in craziness, they don't even know what's normal. They've shown themselves for what they are. Monique should not be blamed for this. I hear the argument about hormonal changes in children. I think that if children are raised with a certain morality - they just won't go there.
I don't give two sh!ts if he was molested. Why do men think that being molested gives them the right to rape not molest others? Do you see Monique or Oprah or any other woman who was raped out touching children? No you don't! Her brother should be in PRISON! He wasn't sincere and was lying to Oprahs face. Mo's family were and are protecting him and not their daughter whose innocence he stole. And they wonder why she doesn't speak to them? He was so creepy I cringed watching the show. He is a MONSTER! That's the problem too many families protecting the molesters and rapers. SICK SICK SICK!
fire4u
and shame on you for acting like being molested is something that anyone would use for publicity. the man showed absolutely no sorrow, and the family acted like everything was alright because mo'nique did not come out with the story for a long time. so what if she didn't? people who are molested keep that to themself for ages, maybe their whole life, because of the guilt and shame associated with it. if he did that, his name SHOULD be shamed along with any parent or family member who would act like mo'nique was in the wrong for calling him out.
PrettyDiva umm excuse me but you can move on and alot of ppl do move on. I moved on!! Some ppl need therapy some ppl dont. I was very fortunate. I think that if Monique was going to take this to the world then she should have been woman enough to face him on Oprah. I mean what was her point in telling us this?? I know it was during the movie and all but didnt she think someone was going to want to talk about it?? She cuss and carry on about everything like its nothing but this she runs from. Talk to your brother, get him some help. Hell get yourself some help.
No offense....but anyone that is commenting on this subject that is a victim of child molestation, may find it hard to be objective. Set aside your emotional agression, and try to look at why abuse happens. Seperate children from men, and stop throwing EVERYONE under the bus. Learn to love and live again. This is why many of you are ***, permiscuous, and hardened as individuals. Lock the *** up,forgive him, free yourself and move on in life. It's never functional and productive to continue to hate on people. A molester is the lowest *** on the earth..we all know that. *** his name from the rooftop , hating your family, and being bitter just means he won. He is still ***..and in many cases, some of the victims turn out to be ***. let it go. It's too negative.
I have a brother who is 5 years older then me. I'm sure he had urges but a SANE person knows you don't go f^cking your little sister. And the fact that he did it again proves he is a perverted monster. Talking about he only molested two people. ***!T. They never molest just two people! Her family makes me sick to even think to defend him. I don't care how Monique acted after the fact. She was a scared young girl and turned to food evidenced by her weight problem. They should really have a IQ test before you are allowed to have children, her parents are so stupid.
should we forgive all pedophiles because they were once molested? should we ~try to understand~ child rapists better, because *awww* they were once abused too?! HELL NO. If you do something as detrimental to a person as molest them as a child, the LEAST you deserve is the shame associated with what you've done! Ppl are supposed to feel sorry for him because years after he molested his younger sister, his name is now shamed?! Give me a f'ing break! Yes, your name is shamed, but she will have issues for the rest of her life due to what he's done; issues that money won't ever resolve.
Oh so that's who that was I saw on Oprah. Now I wish I had've kept it on that channel! But anyway, stuff like this happens A LOT and it's sad. Back in them old days when things like this would happen in the household, the parents wouldn't believe you because they would be embarrassed and ashamed. If the kids can't even go to their own parents when something like that is happening then that's really messed up, and it's no wonder why a lot of molestation victims turn out the way they do! These perverts just don't realize how much they can mess a person's life up. That ish stay with you FOREVER!
fire4u - Unless you are pedophile, a man, a molester of some sorts whatever it may be I can't belive you think people should just move on! Just sit back and think of how you would feel being raped by your own brother! Just think about that. I haven't been molested or raped or anything I just know it's not right. You must be a distorted person to not see and understand that. He wasn't a child. He was A MAN! And that's the reason people are promiscous and *** being exposed to *** too early by sick people like Mo's brother. Stop with the BS.
Mo has let go. She has her own family now that she doesn't want around HER family who protected her brother and still are to this day! Her own mother didn't even really believe her. Who says she hasn't moved on? She looks like she has moved on to me. Her life is alot better then his and its' no thanks to him but to herself!
Its not for someone else to tell the victim whether or not they should or *** publicly call out their molester. Yes you have to forgive, but forgiving someone doesn't mean PROTECTING THEM or forgetting what they've done. She may or may not have forgiven her brother for her own personal sanity, but why would she be under any obligation to protect his name?? She isn't.
(cont)...And it can have a big affect on some areas of your life. I do believe in the saying "forgive but don't forget", but that doesn't mean you have to be all buddy buddy with that person again or pretend everything is cool because it will never be. But it's not good to hold on to grudges for a long time because that person has power over you and you don't have any peace of mind. So you can forgive, but you still don't hve to have anything to do with the person who harmed you if you don't want to.
I don't understand why people are excusing this as a "hormonal issue" when the perpetrator is a kid. WTH??? No one is ignorant to the knowledge of right and wrong at the age of thirteen. And if you've been victimized in this way, it's not something you just get over. Healing is a process and part of becoming whole again doesn't involve bitterness. That alone is like a cancer that eats you alive from the inside out, only to multiply your pain and grief. Forgiveness doesn't make sense to most people because it goes against human nature. Continued....
bourgie_girl fire4u
and shame on you for acting like being molested is something that anyone would use for publicity. the man showed absolutely no sorrow, and the family acted like everything was alright because mo'nique did not come out with the story ======== Of course CELEBRITIES...use if for publicity. Girl, don't be naive. Hollywood is fake. Usually there is an agenda.Telling her story bolstered the movie ratings..and her appeal. Oprah has lived off of her past molestation for years. White audiences love a sob story...and the victim. This topic is an issue for them. so they relate well to it. It is not a coincidence that she did not discuss this until around the time of *** and release of the movie. Why did she not talk about when she filmed "Rosco Jenkins" ? lol. The black movie. All of it is fake hollywood ***..while other molestation as we know it... is kept silent.Why did Barbara Walters need to know her family business? Explain that to me, and i will let it go.
TheBrokenSilence fire4u - Unless you are pedophile, a man, a molester of some sorts whatever it may be I can't belive you think people should just move on! Just sit back and think of how you would feel being raped by your own brother! Just think about that. I haven't been molested or raped or anything I just know it's not right ------ oh cry me a river. I'm not a new blogger on here! I have attacked molesters, and murders featured on this website in stories...more than most! I ripped them to shreds. I am not condoning the molester. The issue i havein this story,,,, is that he was a child at the time, he too was a victim of this terrible act, and that the fake hollywood approach to molestation on Oprah and Barabara walters never resolves anything. They should have and still should seek private counsellling. Anything *** of that is fake hollywood public spectacles..and i am turned off.Which is why i say..call him privately, forgive him and move on. Me and you and Oprah can't do anything about it. So. when you tell the public your business. usually you have an agenda. Just my take..
Forgive him from afar. It is apart of the healing process. It is only so she can move on. Her family are a bunch of morons. I can't believe her other brother who sat up there with this smug smile on his face. They all tried to keep it a secret and ignore that this happened. Monique forgive them all and go and live your life. Forgiveness doesn't mean you have to be with them.
Wrong he was 17 and Monique was 7! Why would a 7 year old make that up? Where would a 7 year old learn that? @SWEETLY_1. That's the problem if it's molestion their should be no room for what ifs. If they asked him enough times he would have told the truth. They simply tossed it to the side and told him stay with grandma for 2 weeks and Mo will forget. Stupid *** people.
sweetly_1 She should forgive her parents, they didn't know what to do. She is now a mother of 3 which one would she choose to throw out of her life if one did something terrible to one of the others, could she easily choose ====== EXACTLY! Girl, that is what i said while i was watching. I felt bad for her parents. They seemed like decent, upright , working parents who did the best they could in a difficult situation. she said she put the boy out of the house for 2 weeks. But at the end of the day..she loves her kids.All of them! This needs to be forgiven. You only get one set of panents...and they seem to be loving people...from what i could see. It's sad. I felt like she threw them under the bus, by refusing to appear. She put it out there..so she should face the music.
she is not obliged to forgive him.what he did is unforgiveable. but if she chooses to forgive him she should still avoid him. how could you look at someone who took what was not ever supposed to be theirs and which they can't giv u back? she should continue life w/out any contact with him. your expectation of your family *** be so different 'cause of blood. we're each humans, if you break the code, if you proved urself UNWORTHY, then take what ya get. for her to be truly healthy how can she be near him?
theres nothing decent about letting your son who molested your daughter come back and pretend like nothing happened after 2 weeks. precious triggered her to bring her story of molestation to the forefront. all too often stories of molestation go unmentioned because people feel such shame associated. no one should question why mo'nique brought up her molestation story; the important thing is that the story IS BEING TOLD.
I SAW HIS CRACKHEAD AZZ ON OPRAH YESTERDAY AND HE IS ONLY APOLOGIZING CAUSE HE WANTS SOME OF THAT OSCAR MONEY....MONIQUE DID RIGHT CUT HIS AZZ OFF NOT ONLY DID HE MOLESTE HER BUT ALSO ANOTHER PERSON MAKES YOU THINK CAN HE BE STOPPED( NOPE)THEY SHOULD PUT A SIGN UP IN FRONT OF HIS HOUSE LADIES PLEASE LOOK OUT FOR THIS LOSER CAUSE IF YOU DATE HIM HE WILL DEF MOLESTE YOUR CHILD
I just feel that this was/is a family matter...and they should have ALL sought professional help and NOT bring this to the public like this.I don't need to know this type of PERSONAL sadness about their families.Heal the hurt inside(The Family) before you bring it to the outside.Has oprah acknowledge that old man claiming to be her Dad yet?...I say clean up your own back yard, before you feel the need to talk about the trash in mine.
there is nothing good that comes from throwing your parents under the bus..and refusing to meet with them. they did the best that they could at the time, in the midst of a really messed up situation.THROWING a child out..even for one week...may have been difficult for her..as a mom. She said that she believed Monique...but lets face it..Monique took a long time to tell her mom. Monique is a ,bitter, unforgiving grown person..who has been blessed..and should love and forgive her parents. Maybe she'll heal.Telling your business, because it FITS the movie style or type serves no purpose..when you are not even SPEAKING to your OWN parents?!How are you helping anyone...other than the promotion of the movie? She does not even talk to her parents. How shameful! where is the lesson. Monique is tacky...period.I would never disgrace my parents..no matter what. Do things with class and decorum, honey.
precious triggered her to bring her story of molestation to the forefront. all too often stories of molestation go unmentioned because people feel such shame ======= Precious triggered DOLLAR signs and publicity to the mainstream market. Prior to this she was BET television...and never said a word to us black folks about molestation. So how was she bringing anything to the forefront...until it suited her? Gabrielle Union talked about her rape and abuse as a dialouge outside of a movie spectacle that fit the mode.
For the people saying Monique is trying to exploit this despicable act as some type of publicity for her movie "Precious" is out of line. Monique has talked openly about being molested since she was on the tv show Parkers. Secondly, the perpetrator has been molesting Monique for years. He just started to preyed upon her at the tender age of seven. He is about six years her senior so he was still molesting her into her early teens meaning when she was 13 years old he was 19. I think people are focusing on the perpetrator age at time this despicable act started and forgetting this continued to happen through her early teens. One thing I have learned about the black community is we are guilty of sweeping things under the rug. We are a culture that likes to treat the perpetrators like victims and the victims like the perpetrators. Go figure!!
I also just wanna point out that Mo'nique did not wait until this movie came out to speak about her molestation. I remember her talking about it wayyy before this movie even came about! Most people are just now really focusing on it because of her recent success with this movie. And if she did wait to bring it up now, then so what? You can't put a time limit on when people want to speak out about something as serious as this!
i dont agree with what he has done to her ...but forgiveness is a powerful thing to posses people ...cause its not for them its really for you ...and thats why she was able to move on and winner her academy award for precious and have her own talk show and is very successful now (LEARN TO FORGIVE PEOPLE ITS A THE MOST POWERFUL WEAPON YOU COULD HAVE IN LIFE
When an OLDER sibling...(5 years+...?) approaches the younger sibling sexually.....there is an imbalance..(be it chemical or parental) .He KNEW he would get away with it,that's why he did it...A good parent would have gotten to the bottom of it THAT very moment she accused him!...If he was molested also...Hey,maybe it was the DAD!...I mean he overlooked it-why?,becoz I think most dads would have torn his lil azz loose!.(Man *** son after molesting daughter-remember that thread?))......But something tells me this onion has YET to expose it's layers.
MO'NIQUE IN OCTOBER 2008 ISSUE OF ESSENCE MAGAZINE; ACTRESS SPILLS THE TEA ON BEING MOLESTED BY HER BROTHER; HER NEW MOVIE ROLE. IS SHE OSCAR BOUND?
For the umpteenth time, actress/comedian/author Mo’Nique is featured on the cover of Essence magazine’s October 2008 issue where she reveals a painful yet unfunny secret she’s been keeping to herself for the past 25 years: she was sexually abused by her older brother from the age of 7 until she was 11 years old. ‘I was molested by my older brother. And even when I confronted him
LOL @ ***
What is your monkey midget *** doing up here arguing with grown folks??.....
Son, you losing your valuable incest time playing gangsta on MTO, be gone ***!
emmettmays85 ain't gonna let you fcuk him so stop begging! Go find you some under age kin folk *** to play with.
Fcuking limp dycks always wanna play big on this ***.
Again Monique has openly talked about this incident during her Parker days. And if Monique was molested until the age of eleven doesn't that make her brother around the age seventeen??? The point I keep continuously trying to make is people focus on the age this perpetrator begin to prey on his baby sister than the despicable act itself. Go Figure!!
i wasnt gonna comment on this divaonadime dumba$$, but u asked for it. 1st of all, iggnant.learn how to write before you put something up. fcuking dummy. to answer your question why im on here arguing with grown folks is because im grown jack a$$. does that answer ur question DUMBA$$DIVA? keep ur mouth close, only open it up for s*cking lymp ***. i dont f&ck with u and emment on ur day job. d!ck s*ckers.....
@***.....Blah blah motherfcuking blah!
I ain't even read all that *** you just typed....all I see is that startled urangatang on the stairs look, reappear on the thread...
SMDH @ you standing on them steps hoping your lil sister will breeze past you in a mini skirt, so you can cop a feel
Da fcuk outta here with your perverted "so what if I fcuked my baby sister ...I'm into boys now anyway, so it don't matter " looking ***
Hate to play Devil's Advocate. But this Family Subject should have been kept private. Mo'nique brought it up first(in interviews) for her role in Precious risking her brothers life (one of her fans might gonna kill him now)and her Family's image(even the innocent ones she didn't mention,ie.Other brotheretc...). Her brother already been dealt with by dudes in Jail "who are fathers themselves" for 10 years which is why he reformed and risking it all telling the world he did this to his sister,and apologizing.If he didn't did it,it would make him more of a monster.cont.
Cont. Also this could be Kept in private between Two adults. Put it like this. Let's role reverse. If Mo'nique's oldest Son molested a girl half his age.I know for a fact she would kept it a secret.Nobody in the public eye would have known not even Orpah,for parental reasons.But to her it's nothing wrong crucifying her other Family members as long it's not her own boys. Also molestion is wrong but if it didn't happen to her would she have taken the role of Mary Jones in Precious,also would she have win the Oscar????
Hey *** (dumb name BTW, cause I'm sure you have a small one) Mo was molested as a little girl. As a man *** you be defending Mo and not her brother. Even criminals in prison hate molesters. And do you really think its easy to forgive & forget that kind of thing?? I'm still tryin to forgive the truck company that towed my car five years ago. One would be tempted to think that perhaps you are a molester yourself.
There is a difference between Molestion and Rape. Molestation is when a person feel uncomfortable thru inappriate touching. Rape is when you violently force sexual acts onto a person thru penatration especailly sexual acts destroying a person physically,mentally and (and if the attacker has a deadlySTD,ie:AIDS,etc..)Life threating.Comparing the two is like comparing Assault to Murder.Especailly when we got sick *** *** out here Killing Kids like that exposing kids that are innocent to their violent sexual world.We should focus on,protecting our kids instead of hearing adult winey celebs.
Nique's parents were on some ***---it why in the hell would she lie on her brother about that? why would she? If momo wants to forgive his azz than she should do it, but now that momo is famous and got moola he might try to get her cash, just sayin, just sayin, her family is on some major ***.it. I swear.
*** the *** up fire4u u a stupid *** *** *** u *** i hope someone molest u and your kids for the rest of your life yea it mighta been an accident yea mayb if he wasnt molested this *** wit monique wouldnt happen but stop defending *** *** u and i hope sumbody rape u evry day for the rest of ya life HOPEFULLY that will *** u the *** up...get raped evry day *** haha that *** sounds good i hope it happens!!!
I saw the show. He is full of ***...not truly remorseful nor sincere. And her parents and other brother is full of *** too! They were still defending the molester and accusing the victim. In ***...to paraphrase...they basically said Mo'Nique was lying and trippin' about being molested for no real known reason and they don't know why she just stopped talking to them, which has been for some years now. Yes, we all have to forgive because bitterness and unforgiveness only hurts the victim and nobody else. But forgiveness doesn't mean you gotta talk to a *** again!
Wow...saw the show...it made me sick to my stomach....for I to have been molested, so I know what she's going through....stay strong Mo! And to all the airheads on here, that take these things lightly...until u have experienced being RAPED/MOLESTED.......don't bother putting your 2 cents in....it's sickening!!! Ugh!
Mo doesn't have to forgive anyone for ***. If her parents threw her to the wolves...to hell with them. Sounds like they are still in denial. I wouldn't want to be around that. It would be too much. The ones who are saying she should forgive, you are not in her shoes. If someone raped your child, would you be saying forgive and forget?
IT IS REALLY SICK HOW SOME OF YOU ARE ON HERE DEFENDING THIS MONSTER, AND HIS BROTHER, AND PARENTS. WHEN IS IT OK TO RAPE A CHILD, YOUR SISTER, OR ANYONE? MONIQUE IS THE VICTIM HERE NOT HER BROTHER, OR HER PARENTS. HE ALSO WAS CONVICTED OF RAPING SOMEONE ELSE. HE ADMITTED TO MOLESTING OTHERS. LET US NOT DEFEND WRONG DOING. THE ONES THAT WERE DEFENDING HIM SO HARD, HOW WOULD YOU FEEL, IF THIS HAPPENED TO YOU ,OR YOUR CHILD? MONIQUE DID NOT HAVE TO PROMOTE THE MOVIE. SHE SPOKE OF HOW SHE DID NOT HAVE TIME TO PROMOTE PRECIOUS. MOLESTATION IS NOT SOMETHING THAT A VICTIM CAN EASILY FORGET.
Monique parents were negligent, and very irresponsible for letting this molestation of their daughter go on for so long in their house. When she told them about it, they sent the son to live with his grandmother for two weeks, and then let him return home. Why didn't they get to the bottom of this, and seek help for both of their children? It is understandable why Monique does not associate with any of them.
Bust his head wide open. The dude is only apologizing because she's filthy RICH and hecka famous and he's borderline broke he wants his pockets lined so he can stop fkng with those thirty and forty dolla every now and again hookers on payday and get himself a WHITE bytch to tell him he didnt do anything wrong. Pop that pimple for him Mo! 4 inch stilletto heel and five minutes of alone time. will solve it.
no, but seriously, dont forgive him. Put the barrel of any weapon you want near the very crack of his azz and start itchin.
she will probably forgive him though, most christians do. they are suppose to but cant fight the urge to want him to suffer. Put something in him thats not suppose to be there, just like he did her.
Those of u that are defending this devil. Do understand that some of u will go on in life to RAPE or Moslest a child or even ur own siblings! Some of u will get caught & lock up, & some of u will not be that lucky because some of u will have ur AZZ BEAT, BEAT to DEATH, *** in the HEAD or RAPED with a very long object! So while u creeps r siding with him, keep that in mind!
I think that she should forgive him for herself that doesn't mean that she has to deal with his nasty *** ,But for her mother and father not to believe her when she came to them with what had happened to her they were wrong and they needed to ask for her forgiveness, I believe that when your child comes to you and tells you that somebody has done something thing to them you are suppose to believe them first and then find out if it's true or not plan and simple.
@Chi - yup, i'm a childhood molestation victim. an AUTHORITY as described by you. belee dat. i can talk: incase you missed it 1st time or wanted to overlook what i'm sayin, take it one mo time: she doesn't owe him anything, not forgiveness, not anything. it is her option to forgive him or not. i chose to forgive my molestors. i choose to not be put in a position to see them again. now is the opinion relevant to you? .
FIRST OF ALL YOU SHUD ALWAYS FORGIVE THE SAME AS JESUS WUD DO FOR YOU. AND SECONDLY, I THINK THE SITUATION IS SICK! THAT FAMILY HAD THE DEVIL SURROUNDED BY EVIL. AND I WILL PRAY FOR THEM. KNOW ONE SHUD EVA GO THROUGH THAT PAIN. IT'S A WIN AND LOSE SITUATION...I SAY THAT BECUZ THEIR FAMILY THAT GREW UP TOGETHER AND IT'S CONFUSED. MO LOVE HER FAMILY BUT CAN'T FORGIVE THE PRESSURE ON AN INNOCENT PERSON THAT FEEL IT SHE HAS TO CHOSE. NOT RIGHT. FORGIVE BUT DON'T FORGET...
