: MediaTakeOut.com learned that R&B singer Lyfe Jennings is speaking out abou tbabys mama drama. Here’s what he told Vibe magazine:
I got two boys and a little girl, two baby mamas; I feel like I got 20. Some people gon’ be looking at this like I know this n*gga ain’t trying to give advice—because I've made a lot of mistakes. But I would say don’t have sexual dealings with your baby mama once it’s established y’all not gon' be together. Because when they want you and they got a chance, then they gon' keep up with the nonsense and every time that they get mad about something it’s gon’ reflect with the kids.Anything that has to deal with the legality of your kids, get it right because people, not just women, are finicky. They’ll tell you something and they mean it at the time but then as time go on things change. It's so much cleaner and easier when you just get the stuff right. Shout out to my 20 baby mamas, I wish you well. My baby mama always trying to send me to jail, that’s her goal in life. My other baby mama she cool. She wants me to be involved in my child’s life. But both of them are just spoiled and I take full responsibility for that 'cause I spoiled 'em. But now I’m trying to spoil me.
I hate to jump out on people because I know Nas. That’s my little partner right there and I done dealt with that [same type of] situation as [him and] Kelis before, but come on. It seem like females just be wanting the dude to suffer. It’s hard. They want him to pay, what, $50,000 a month? Do you realize that this dude bill is probably at least $30,000 a month so 50 plus 30? And then taxes is 50% so this man has to turn around and make $160,000 a month just to have his bills paid. That’s crazy hard to keep up. That ain’t cool. Why not get a job? Let’s do it together. I look at it from her side, too, because I guess she felt like, “I dealt with this for all these years and a lot of success that he’s had, a lot of I guess physical success came from me making sure his mental success was here." So she’s entitled to something but she ain’t entitled to all of it.
I hope everything work out for everybody who has baby mamas and I hope they change these laws to stop letting women and men—'cause some men be filing for child support, too—but stop letting them make a living off child support and start requiring them to get a job. I done dealt with chicks before and maybe two, three weeks in they start asking about stuff: "Oh I can’t really come by because I gotta find out how I’ma pay this rent and I wish somebody would help me out." I be like, "Well take as much time as you need because that rent really need to be paid." [Laughs]. There’s gotta be a co-op. I’ve been in the situation where it’s crazy stuff. Insane. I will not do that again. Paying for everything, credit cards that you pay and clothes, cars—people get spoiled.
I definitely want an independent woman. And I don’t expect you to make as much as I make. That’s probably not gon’ happen. But I just want a contribution. When we walk in the house together we feel like we both got a stake in this. I’m not the only one that’s gon’ lose if something go wrong. We gon’ lose together and therefore we gon’ gain together and the keyword in all that is “together.” I will not support you. I will not pay your bills, I will not do that. You gotta have your own thing going on.
HE MAKES A GOOD POINT AND I LIKE THE WAY HE DELIVERED IT ALL. THIRSTY AZZ BYTCHES NEED TO STOP BEGGING, YO THATS A SHAME. I NEVA ASK NO MAN FOR ***, I WAIT TILL HE OFFERS AND IT ALWAYS BETTER THAT WAY. MY MAN HAS SPOILED ME THOUGH, BUT HE KNOWS I HAVE MY OWN AND THAT I SPOIL HIM TOO, SO ITS ALL GOOD.
i understand where he's coming from, but unfortunately if he would have worn a condom his black *** wouldnt be in this situation in the first place. its always the black men thats always screamin "my baby mama this & that" but i never hear them throw the word "wife" around. tacky *** niqqas. let the white gir;s deal with this coonery
LaBellaAmor its always the black men thats always screamin "my baby mama this & that" but i never hear them throw the word "wife" around. tacky *** niqqas. let the white gir;s deal with this coonery ************ There's a reason *** dont throw the word wife around. Who wanna marry a greedy *** nothing *** *** and have to deal with her for the rest of his life? Then the *** gonna have to pay Alimony on top of Child support. There's a reason 70% of yall aint married...start lookin i the mirror...
Too much this morning but coming from a woman I kind of understand where he coming from. I am very independent and I really don't like asking guys for money thats just not my thing but *** have to ask a guy for money. He should be able to do something for me because he want to not because I asked him to. There are too just some men who are cheap and want to live off of a woman. That I will not have, If know game I don't ask guys for money but if I see you are one of them guys that want a girl to come over and watch a movie and then try to *** in the process thats a fail. Guys these days don't know how to treat a lady. They want to chill at the crib and see if they can get some ***. Not with me that *** is not happening. I mean guys need to really step their game up. What happened to taking a lady out to dinner or to the movies or something like that. Guys if you invite a girl over only after knowing her for a month or so and you havent went on a offical first date yet and you know you want to *** and she is letting you *** without even going on that offical first date yet, then you know she is nothing but hoodie...
Girls if a guy ask you to come to his house and chill and watch some movies and you barely know him and he have not asked you out to the movies or dinner or something then you know the only thing he is trying to do is hit it and quit it..No good. Some of yall need to go back and listen to the classic Lauren Hill CD Doo Whoop that Thing and listen to what she is saying because home girl is speaking the truth and I can kind of understand how Lyfe feels about gold digging BM's. Fellas just need to examine who they are laying up with and stop looking at people because of their looks.
@ Hustleman4 no i think the problem is that ur daddy *** ya mama and left her ***. thats how u got here. u niqqas daddys is deadbeats and have no role models to show u how to be stand up guys, be REAL men. no ones showing yall how to excell accademically, go to college, have a career, get married and take care of ur families. i mean ur name is hustleman for crying out loud. lmao im willing to bet my life ur parents were never married. ur just another niqqa born out of wedlock. smh
He spoke real and from the heart. He is right. Get your stuff legal and right because women are overemotional and finicky and can be vindictive (Hell hath no fury..). And yeah some women look at kids as a meal ticket and others look at them as a weapon to hurt the kids. Some folks on this site think women can do no wrong so they will chafe at this but show me one thing he said that's wrong.
"svwalthour Who cares just keep sending them checks in...or its behind bars 4 u lolz ***** ^^^ *** ass nothing *** ***! You're the reason *** have no respect for women..."
No - n*ggers don't respect women because they think its cool not to. Furthermore, maybe if this dumb oversexed f*cking n*gger has used a condom he wouldn't have to take care of anyone and we wouldn't have to read this long b*tch @ss rrant so early in the morning. Thats the black mans problem now. He never wants to take responsibility for his own bad decisions. Man up and take care of your own.
Well, I'm a baby momma that works and pays her own rent and utilities. Furthermore, I split EVEN (50%) with my ex all expenses related to our child. However, my ex still thinks i'm a *** because i've been nagging him to commit to alternate weekends with his daughter. And it's funny because he thinks I do this because i'm still hung up on him and bitter. But I just want my kid to know when can she EXPECT TO SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH HER DAD. Not all BabyMoms are out for blood...we want whats best for our kids.
Yeah, some women do take advantage of men and use their kids to collect unnecessary money. That is wrong. But men have to be more organized with their money meaning they need to create a list of all their expenses to show the court and their ex spouse that they have expenses too.
And ladies stop using the kids to get money out your ex. It is wrong and the kids are the ones that suffer not your ex
"Alimony on top of Child support. There's a reason 70% of yall aint married...start lookin i the mirror..."
Okay so this is the reason 70% of "us" aren't married? You say this as if you dumb n*ggers aren't paying other races of women as well. Dumb n*ggers like you who are so quick to fear what a black woman is going to take from you are the ones who always end up getting double that taken by a non black woman.I wonder how Tiger Woods, Tiki Barber, Michael Strahan, etc. would feel about this statement seeing that they are about to give it all to non black women.
1. No judge would set an "unreasonable" support judgment. If you don't think Nas was ballin like that, think again. 50 G's was probably a settlement amount.
2. One can usually tell within weeks if a chick is in it for a "free-lunch", so if you knock her up, your not gonna get a tissue from me knowing you could have prevented it.
3. Even if your baby-momma is the prototypical, low-life skank, courts are only concerned about the welfare of the child in the end, as they should be. I DESPISED MY WOMEN'S STUDIES CLASS IN COLLEGE, BUT A MAJORITY OF THE STUFF MADE SENSE. WHOEVER THIS GUY IS, HE NEEDS TO GET A CLUE.
I have a friend that pays 1,200 dollars a month in child support. No court ordered him to do this he does it on his own. His ex wife says she only want to work part time.
He keeps giving his wife extra money. He just gave her 500 dollars to pay her cable and cell phone bill. Come on now. She need her *** kicked for working part time with 2 kids.
Well said! he actually makes sense. Child support is not a source of income it is for the child and should not be for fckn weaves,nails or anything else thats fake. I agree with him 100% these bm's are ridiculous. I hate seeing these dumb BM's all decked out in GUCCI and they kids look a mess... it aint right.
I don't feel sorry for some of these baby daddies/mamas. Especially when u keep doin the same stupid sh*t over and over again. If u wanna be stupid you better be tough. Otherwise, keep ya sh*t zipped or keep ya feet on the floor if u don't want baby daddy/mama drama. Learn from the ppl who have been there. U ain't doing nothing new and it's the same got dern result.
He has TWO, my son's father has FOUR and don't complain that much! LOL at the baby mama who just wants him in jail, that's hilarious! If he's in jail, you can't dig STUPID! How is he gonna pay daycare if he's in jail? These broads do need to get jobs, and even Stevie Wonder can see that Kelis is robbing Nas blind, I went out and bought "Distant Relatives" just to help the brotha out.
look, check this out.
This how i look at it,
I feel like that its all about about the money cuz everytime a mother and a father get into an argument about their child, its all about the money.
Mothers need to worry about their child and stop worrying about the money!!!!
My friend's baby mama is like that, she takes his child support money and go spend it on herself.
WTF!!!!!! what baby mama will do that to their child, but naw she doen't even do *** for their child, i wish that was my future baby's mother, she will never see her child again!!!!
Yall money hungy mothers make me sick!!!!
please put into consideration that the kids prolly live with the moms more than likely. which means when they get sick, whos up in the middle of the ***? mom! when theyre hungry, whos cooking? mom!
however. . .
I agree that woman *** be allowed to just sit on their *** and collect child support. the fathers check *** be the primary source of income while she coolin on the couch watching maury either tho. but that fool should be puttin in 50% even if that means its all financial on his end. if he goin broke, too bad.
Growing up my dad had to raise 5 kids on his OWN! My mom left all of us and he worked a full time job & paid her $5,000/month bc he didn't want to see his children's mother unable to live properly and this has been going on for over 8 years now. Now, my mom paid nothing for us 5 kids while my dad paid for everything. I guarantee if the roles were flipped and my dad tried to walk away from his 5 kids and not have to pay anything SHE WOULD'VE RAN TO THE COURT SO FAST & SERVED HIM PAPERS YOU WOULD'VE THOUGHT SUPERMAN WAS HER LAWYER!
Ya'll know what els??
Thats why these baby fathers doesnt be in their child lives cuz of money hungry baby mamas go spend that child support on herself.
And some of these females be lying about who their baby daddy is and they the ones who get embarrassed on the maury show saying that they guy isnt the baby mother. Guys who are fathers be feeling and thinking ok, if she aint handling her part of responsibility of being a mother. y should i take care of that baby????
just because its about the money........
Money doesnt bring happiness....
Love and faith bring happiness. Thats the truth!
sounds like you need to take the time you took to contact the press with this nonsense & work on booking a show. nobody told you to raw dawg them broads. celebrities have been getting *** by support & hungry bms that need their hair did & their clothes right long before you got in the game. none of them ever told you? you never read any of the horror stories? the time for spoiling yourself passed when you had the kids. dudes work fast food & have nothing after support so why would anyone feel sorry for you. get real!
*gasp* you mean some women are actually lazy and don't want to work and expect you to pay their bills and support them because they take care of the child that lives with them? *rollseyes* women complaining about that stuff or like to bring it up and remind you they do it are just sad, it's almost as bad as men who want props for taking care of their kids *smh* news flash dummies, you're SUPPOSED to do that, it's your kid! "boo hoo, when my kid its sick it's me up all *** with him/her so I can't get a job" yea, whatever
Yall know im talkin the truth!
But hey, don't get me wrong, there's alot of punk *** *** who don't want to step up and be a father to their children, they need to learn how to use a condom if they aren't ready to take responsibility.
Females, yall need to stop opening your legs like hallways and letting guys take advantage of yall. yall females need a good male in yall lives whos not gon leave yall and just use yall for ***. but yall need to use yall heads also, cuz ding ding ding, it can get worse than pregnancy, hiv, std, etc things like that so yall need to proctect yallselves!
I understand him on everything he saying....I mean I understand that you need to take care of your girl and your family its only right....BUT theres a point where your women needs to step up and contribute to the relationship too....IT TAKES TWO TO MAKE A BABY!!!...So why should one suffer with feeling like they have to do everything...I dont think u should just not look after the mother of your child...But if ur dude only make bout 300 a week or so and he payin 250 of it then thats where I dont agree..Cause when we have to pay that much then we got to hustle to survive and stuff like that!!!
But while we are hustlin we risk gettin arrested and if that happens then you are both hit the baby and you...SO LADIES TRY TO BE MORE REASONABLE AND DONT ACT LIKE JUST CAUSE YOU GOT CHILD SUPPORT THAT ITS A JOB...Be a strong independent woman and atleast do something besides make the father of your childs life a living hell!!!
I can't relate. Its all stupid. BM and Bd..smh..since when is that a status. I could see xwife or xgf but bm?!..to me that's all the way around disrespect ful as in that just the guy I let skeet in me or the girl I skeeted in. Its simple..get on BC, if you aren't then don't have ***. And pullin out doesn't always work. Are ypu all animals in heat to where you can't resist *** and let's not even get on stds. No self controll is all this says to me. Period! Oh yeah if u do fck up..get an abortion and if you're against it, DON'T have ***.
MBAeducated- If that’s your real credential That had to be the most "soft core prostitution" statement I have heard in years. I never have posted in my two years of looking at this site, but your line of thinking infuriates me. Your type acts as if you're high class or any better than these typical video vixens. At least they make their intentions known upfront. At least they don't convolute the issue with their pseudo-independent attitude.
Nas spoke about women like you when he said, you ain’t worth the pu$$y you sit on. Tying money, a date, bills to *** = prostitution!!!
@***
AGREED! If you're not ready to settle down and take the meaning of a family seriously then STOP HAVING UNPROTECTED ***!
I have no sympathy for men with multiple baby mothers and pay child support because the choice was his to lie down like that and he clearly didn't learn a lesson the first time.
HIT EM WHERE IT HURTS! Men, corporations, and people in general do not take their rash and irresponsible actions seriously until the consequences effect their MONEY. I'm sure now he'll vet the next women he's with seriously, and I PRAY THE WOMAN vets him as he has two failed relationships that resulted in a child who will now be raised without a father and by a single parent. MAN UP! Stop passing along the blame. If a woman has one child she’s tainted, and yet the majority of you scrubs have more than one baby’s mother and someone is suppose to feel sorry for you?????? LMAO The joke is on you
WOW!!! Lyfe Jennings done been in some mess it sounds like. This whole visitation/child support thing can be tricky. It depends on the woman ur dealing with, if she is cool, independant, working etc and is willing to work out a deal between the two of you then good. But if ur dealing with a woman who is lazy and looking to live off child support then go thru the courts. One of my guy friends is going thru this his BM got three kids w/ 3 different men living off child support of the 3 kids. She told his daughter (she 17) that he only gives her 10.00 per month,LIES!
@dundun12
if I made 300 a week and my child support was 250 a month my survial skills would kick in and I would definitely find a higher paying income. We r in the US were opportunities are bountiful. Go back to school and enroll in the fatherhood program if u must...do something better to offer sum better to ur kids. No sympathy. I've work plenty of jobs to survive. Just do it.
Nice way to say it Lyfe so the *** won't get antsy knowin they are called out.
Here in Atlanta though they ain't havin that. You are required to attend a job seeking class and you have to show results as well.
How about not giving her a cash bag so she can make the decisions? Buy all the food, diapers,etc yourself so she won't be tempted ya heard me? Then give her the leftover money.
yeah, some baby mamas are greedy . . . but what planet did you jump off before you got these TWO chicks pregnant??!? Ummm . . . hellooooo, it's widely known that child support CAN and WILL come looking for you if you a have a child out of wedlock and you're not with the mother, so . . . wouldn't it have been in YOUR best interest to wrap it up? This is hating the player at it's finest. The game just IS what it IS.
(btw my captcha said "lame intentionally." how appropriate!)
He and the like irk me to no end. That's HIS dumb *** for impregnating a lazy ***, no good freak. It’s also HIS fault for continuing to 'spoil' them. Keep it real ***, when you say SPOLI you mean you thought you could keep going back and forth stirring the pot and she would keep quiet bc you paid her bills AKA ENABLING and encouraging the behavior. You played games with a woman, the most emotional beings on earth fool. You are no match! Not saying the BM was right, don't know what she did and I know chicks play the 'I won't let you see your kid games'. Bc they are either ad you're not with them or have a new girl. Childish *** but it goes on. Men need to take responsibility for their fck up. None the less YOU put her in the position to play the game niqqa. It’s a game a man will likely lose. Is it fair? Absolutely not! Does it happen? Every *** day! Get with the program and stop whining like a ***! You let your little head turn your LYFE (lol) upside down! And for what? A permanent headache! YOUR bad!!! Now you wanna talk slick and act like somebody did something to you! You did it to yourself! An now you THINK you DESERVE an independent woman? What respectable woman will have a man with TWO baby mamas? You made the same MISTAKE (not the kids but the prior act of raw dogging a stranger- had to be a stranger or you would’ve known better or either you're plain insane) THREE times with TWO different women?! Gtfoh talking about independent woman. Pssh. You don't deserve nthn but the trash you are! Yeah yeah people make mistakes but SOME mistakes are PERMANET and you MUST deal with the consequences. Baby mama’s don’t owe you a fair ***! It was a gmable from the start! I could see if you say that's my EX who also happens to have had my child but BM?BD?! All that says is a sexual fling gone TERRIBLY wrong. The title says it all its disrespectful to yourself and the other pary. It’s saying I couldn't control myself and I don't have any sound decision making skills nor does he/she. Forethought goes a loong way people. I could even see ex wife... I excuse committed, official relationships but not flings gone awry. Sorry. Men should be EXTRA careful too bc when it comes to kids, mom has the upper hand UNLESS you have custody. That's the ONLY way to dead the situation completely but GOD forbid one of you suckas are willing to do that and give up all of that freedom! You'd rather pay CS, go back and forth to court over eliminating the BM's squawking. Like I said, what respectful Independent woman wants a man with 3 kids and two bitter heifers trippn all the time? Niqqas like this got some NERVE. You threw those chances of getting a woman like that away TWO nuts err kids ago! Not to mention lyfe looks like the bottom of my shoe! He's and his type are delusional. Straight up. Better off getting a more civilized hoodrat lol if there is a such thing or just your avg working dummy. If you weren't married or in a serious relationship for 5+ yrs I can't excuse kids (and that's cutting it close)ESPECIALLY now that I don't have any kids or past relationship PERMANENT baggage. That's a lot to accept and overlook and I can't imagine a sane woman- not one who SEEMS sane- but an actual rational thinking sane woman who would unless she just looooves kids, which I happen to not. When you have bad *** to say about people you've been intimate with or people you've had *** with (there is a difference) its a reflection on you and the type of people you're attracted to. If she's trash what does that make you lyfe? Garbagé??? Lol get a grip. You fckd up homey and so did they but at the end of the day we all know the man gets the *** end of the stick when it comes to having kids. She can only get you locked up if you don't do what you're supposed to do. Check stubs on CS don't lie so stop fronting. If CS is too high, get it readjusted through the courts. If she is violent have a witness or police escort you. If you are on CS ORDERED by the court not some non binding verbal agreement and she won't let you see the kids, file contempt. It may be a hassle but its better than explaining it to the judge and don't just sit there like dumb dumb and let her *** you over dummies! There is a way and idgaf about all that I don't wanna get her locked up bs (that’s only bc YOU then will be primary caretaker of the child but oooh that is soooo scary) cuz she'll surely not hesitate to lock yo *** up! Then what? Back at square one. If a man isn't smart enough to dead that situation the RIGHT way he isn't smart enough to be with me and doesn't deserve to be excused for past fck ups cuz ur STILL fckn up. Take it to the courts so it can be on record fools! Yall so *** stupid, don't make no sense. As far as BM’s needing to work, I absolutely agree. They should and there is no excuse. Waiting on a check is a sure fire way to tell if you are a ***. However, if she wants to be lazy, unfortunately, she is allowed to in some states. Until the laws change that is reality. It doesn’t matter how you feel about it. Don’t put her in the position bc she can be lazy all day but YOU better not be late or *** a dollar bc , “But she doesn’t work” will not be a valid defense when asked why the hell you aren’t paying what you OWE. Bottom line..start jacking, get some self control and learn how to spot a hoodrat no good biotch miles away. And just bc she’s in “school” doesn’t mean shes a go. *** go to schools JUST for that reason, to snag an upwardly mobile DUMMY. I.E. “art major who is DYING to go to DUKE” Come on now..you know the biz..well by the looks of it most of you DON’T. Suck for you! Haha
...these dudes kill me *** everything that moves without knowing the character of the woman AND no protection then complaining when it comes time to take care of your responsibilities. Not only did he not learn the first time, he's workin on a third. Now their mad at the system because the system is smarter than them. The biggest tragedy is even when they pay child support, there is still a child who wonders why their daddy dont love them..24/7 which creates half the bs we see on this site. How many of u remember one parent letting u get away with something only to have the other say no.
I like his last paragraph.
People should just stop having *** and they'll never have any of these problems. Condoms do not always prevent everything - but of course that's not going to happen.
Ladies need to stop sleeping around with every guy that shows the least bit of interest in them. You should know a guys intentions when you meet him .. I won't hang out with a guy if I know that *** is the only thing he wants from me - it's not happening.
Guys also just need to stop sleeping around period - then they won't have to worry/complain about any 'baby mama drama' .. Having 2+ 'baby mamas' is not cute.
Good luck to Lyfe - hope he finds that "independent woman" who has no problem raising two kids that are not hers and dealing with their mothers.
Point blank...I don't feel sorry for him or anybody in his situation, man or woman. Don't be a baby mama/daddy then. Keep your *** legs closed or keep it wrapped. EVERYBODY knows how to prevent it, you were just too f*ckin lazy. When did having children out of wedlock become cool??? Cry me a f*ckin river. Yeah its not cool to use people and be lazy but its not cool to have 2 baby mamas and ZERO marriages.
I agree with him 100% child support should require the claimer to seek employment. too many women out there look as a child as a nothing more than a check. the system is so quick to say " think about the child". well maybe they should tell these borke *** hoes the same thing when they bring them into this world for all the wrong reasons. dude should have strapped up though.
Idnt feel a tiny bit of sorrow for the BMs cus there r plenty of chicks *** the bay area that have had ''KEEP A ***.IGGA BABY'' *** WHICH THE dude didnt no she was prego wen they were tagether breaks up *** then pops up 5 months prego so they cant have an aborition wen dude finds out *** the oppotunity is offered.. *** dude even says nope still not gona b with u.. But now she has the kid so she can act watever way she feels cus if the guy is good the guy isnt leaven the childs lyfe.... *MAKES ME SICK WAT SUM WOMEN DO*
I see both sides..as a woman I say take care of your children men...but the man is not responsible for taking care of the momma...and asking for excess money just for having a mans baby is crazy...that money should be additional money to what U already have...now if a man who is rich wants U 2 stay at home and take care of his children then he should provide your living expenses but that should be his choice ....If this man thought that much of U he would of married U ....so unless U are a wife than U do not deserve a huge amount of money every month...PERIOD
Oh *** up! Another dead beat *** ***!gga! Funny how rappers including Nas and this dude (IDC if he ain't a rapper) always wanna be bragging about the money they got and spoil their women but as soon as a baby pops up they are suddenly broke. They want that much because you do make that much! You telling me you and Nas don't make that much? BS! Probably running game talking bout what you got, buying them expensive things-telling em they aint gotta work and all that.
man got a good *** point, people can be greedy as hell and they will take everything you got and still have they hand out for more. As a woman even i feel like having a baby dont entitle you that mans every earning *** he got to eat too. and as far as kelis and nas go aint kelis still doing shows, nas aint even in it for the money no more her making music because its his craft and its what he loves so yea it might be a while before his next album drop cause he taking his time to make art not fluff
The child custody laws in the US are a joke...But, I can't blame women for seeking full monetary compensation under the full letter of the law...only if they were as adamant and as driven as trying to give their sons or daughters full access or shared custody rights to their paternal fathers...but, that would mean a lesser monthly allowance....ahahha!!
But, Negroes have no room for complaint...just as these scalawag women abuse the system, you too abuse it...if you were that concern about the welfare of your kids and your savings...you would be more selective of the *** you frequent with.
lol...it's like a farmer who randomly select any soil to place his seed into...when the soil doesn't bear-out the fruits he wanted...instead of cursing at himself, he curses the soil...or the seed...
Some of you Negroes are laughable...ahahaha!!!I am out...
da_advocator
The Child Support laws and Alimony laws in the country are a joke. All that woman has to do is open her mouth and the judge fills it with some guys money, spirit and time. Bitterness in a woman who feels deserving of "what could have been" or "should be" is PURE EVIL. Get a *** job! You should have been investing in your future and not a new hand bag when the money was coming in. As a woman I hate broads like this. Lyfe I understand-at least you took some responsibility by saying it's partially your fault also but women. Be what you say and stop speaking what you think you are
All of you people that say its his fault for not wearing a condom or he *** hav came inside her need to get a clue. Condoms do help but not 100% of the time them *** do break. So if the only argument you can make is he shoulda wore a condom you should just the hell up. If any of you can show me a Latex condom that is as durable as steel i will *** up. We all need to stop this Men vs Women *** or more specifically this Blk Men Vs Blk Women *** because its ridiculous. Both sexes have a hand in the whole child support debacle, from deadbeat dads to gold digging moms.
mto what do u mean deadbeat he just said he guilty of spoiling his bm's u *** morons someone need to dropkick who ever said he was a dead beat, and phacorah is right all a chick got to do is have a kid and break up wit someone and she all set 4 18 yrs the system is a joke ,rather than go to school and make ten times more money all these hoes wanna do is get preg and leach off the system but one day it will change problably after nas gets tired of payin child support snaps and kills kelis .
I agree with him completely....I'm in my 30's and have been working since I was 13....I have never waited for a guy to take care of me and never will...I always held my own....I'm married now and we have 3 kids and everything splits down the middle....Even if he told me to stay at home and he will take care of me I wouldn't do it because I have always been on my grind and hustler....I GUESS IT'S IN MY BLOOD...
Heres a *** thought stop having *** out of wedlock if you dont want to pay childsupport.does anyone ever factor in maybe some women prefer to raise their kids while being a stay at home mom.rather then working and letting child care , daycare or a nanny raise them.keep ya *** in ya pants and stop with the *** why me ***.no pitty for a grown man who made a baby and dont want take care of the woman that had it .perhaps if he got to know her views goals and what she wanted to do as far a childrearing b4 planting his seed he would have been better off. you made ya bed now lay in it.if you wanna talj about it LYFE be about it.being a father is more then child support it tucking them in every ***.being there for ***.godforbid someone breaks in the home your child is in and your safe in your home miles away.you itching about money.they your legacy.sorry fathers will resent this a real man father would understand.why have you become just breaders and forgot to be MEN.this wimp *** has got to stop .
$50,000 a month! That's insane and I'm a woman. I wouldn't even do that to a ***---even if he dogged me. He'll be punished far worse than what I can do to him monetarily. God has the last laugh in the end. Courts should make it that the guys take care of their child, not the female. Food, toys & clothes is all they should have to give the mothers for the kids on a monthly basis. Make these *** get a job and buy their own house and car because if they didn't have a rich niccaz kids, they'd have to do it! Make the man put all that money in a trust fund for the kids for when they grow up. That's an excuse to be a lazy, triflin', gold diggin hoe.
Unless you are a victim of ***, much of our problems come from bad decisions. We need to stop blaming each other. Most men know there are women who will abuse the system, so you should be more selective on who you impregnate. The system is corrupted since it has purposely allowed women to abuse it. That's why I don't like the system because it is evil and it has played a role in rift within' out community yet our people continuing running to corrupted system instead of acknowledging our mistakes and correcting them.
@ datouch, I would love for the entire child support system to be changed. I want to know how many men would ask for full physical custody of their child. Men should be allowed that or will that impede on the freedom for you all to go and trick off on some other bishes? Also, your a racist, you need couseling, and help. Masquerading as a black man is ridiculous.
this is real talk and i dont understand why someone would knock someone who has the experience in the subject matter, Lyfe be on some real ***....but if u a man and you recieve child support man the hell up, ive had my son for 4 years now and the court tried to force me to take my sons mother to court for child support, *** that ***..if u a man and you recieve child support you need to sit down while you pee too..
I am a "babysmomma" and I agree with lyfe .... He's keeping it real stop messing with your bbm because as soon as you don't do what she wants they want to flip it around on the baby *** say what you not doin start a big commotion ... My ex bf bbm used to do that because his lyin *** was still messing with her *** then he wud b stressed out when she started trippin... O well stop satin y'all not together *** still having sexual intercourse it's only drama !
Spoken like a wise gentleman. He has every right to want a partner who is willing to meet him half way. Relationships and marriage are just that "a partnership" which means we split the responsibility of our life and lifestyle. I'm a woman who is now unemployed for the first time in 23 years and it kills me not to be able to contribute financially to my life with my man. Just know,Lyfe, that there ARE women who feel the same way you do about "shared responsibility."
@MDLFNGRBTCH wouldn't f*ck you if you were the last male on earth, so no need to worry. I'm nobodys baby mama, never have been, never will be. I'm a WIFE and a MOTHER but I don't expect you to understand what a real woman is cause your a piece of hood trash and thats all you'll ever deal with; hoodrats. Please don't continue to populate our earth with useless flesh like yourself. Get yourself fixed asap. go ahead and come back with some ignorant n*gger sh*t if you like. I don't argue with children, drug addicts, or criminals and I gurantee you're at least one of those.
yes, he makes a lot of sense. that's true. misery loves company & some mothers be tryna file fer child support & take everything the baby daddy make just so they can be living nice, while the dad struggling. i especially hate when they be filing fer child support & the dad's be taking care of their kids. like dang, can he get a break?
He's right. But I see a pattern. Certain types of men attract a certain type of woman, because these women know how to find them and 'get them', something that the more honest, sincere type of woman would know very little about, and are usually not seen as sexy or spunky enough to bother to get to know. How can a guy expect a woman to turn into 'Independant Woman' if she really wasn't like that when they met?
I may be a lady, but what he's saying is soo true! Some women needs to get off their lazy butts, and do something instead of sitting there. But don't worry about them, the child support is for your children, kick her to the side. Now, I could see if she had a job, but nah, if I was in his shoes, she wouldn't be getting squat!
He's making sense, and I agree with him to the fullest!! A lot of these females can be just as slick, scandalous, and no good. Like he said, they need to go out and get a job instead of living off child support. But when he said he wants an independent woman, I hope he really means it because men would say that and then turn around and trip about it! And then they use that as part of their excuse for messing with white women and other races..smh! Many of them don't really know what they want either..LOL
@Itsme313 what up..chilled *** 586 for a min.
you have to be smarter than the system...the system changes(your reasons very valid) so you have to change or get caught up. Why give them the ammo to *** u down. When the group goes left..u go right.
@Truthiz..you better not run into a Bm with a level head..do u really want to compare the MORALS of a Bm vs Wm. Why you people come here on your one person crusade is funny..u vomit yet?
I actually agree with that. A man should support his KIDS, not the baby momma. As they said in the boondocks, he "skeeted that life into moms" so he should raise support it, and the woman should have an equal part in raising the baby too. I understand not every *** will do that.
And neither men nor women should rely on the other to support them. it's either 50-50 or 0-0 as far as im concerned.
Spoken like a true jailbird. This convict should just handle his biz thru the system and leave it at that. The courts set the c.s. amount-not the wife or baby mama(s). He avoided marrying either one of them and he's still complaining. He needs to go sit his corny, dreadful singing asz down, grow up & stand up for all the DL ***.
I know his other baby mother and she had a job when they met and she has one now! Don't know why he would bring her in this! Because he doesn't pay for everything for her and she struggles! She does what she can for her and her child and keeps it moving! I guess thats why he referred to her as the "cool" one! Because she hasn't taking him to court! I personally think she should because I hear how her and her daughter struggles and he seems to not care! He seems like a dead beat!
To *** under me and rainbowbrit *** abunch of other people maybe if u look for somebody who has a nice personality u wouldn't be poppin *** cuz I'm currently engaged never been cheated on and Ive only been with him and nobody else. And yes my baby looks good as hell!!!! So fellas maybe if u get ya heads out of ladies *** *** [EXPLETIVE] *** ladies stop givin it up so early maybe y'all will find somebody *** I agree with life a couple should do stuff together u *** encourage nobody to do *** for u cuz if they really love u they will do it on they own
Why do people get mad when a male speaks how he feels about certain females. You can't get mad at the truth! How many females and even males have we seen make kids for a meal ticket or any other purpose besides loving their child? Come on people. You can say what you want about him, but he speaks the truth. Right is right and wrong is wrong. I bet they wasn't beggin for no child support when he was in prison. Money is the root of so much evil. Open your eyes
Child support is NOT a source of income. Child support should require the claimer to seek employment also. Too many women out there look as a child as a nothing more than a check, and a way to control men.
Trifling broke *** hoes should think before they bring illegitimate children into this world born out of wedlock looking to trap a man as well as a source of income as & an excuse to sit on their *** & beg.
I see post saying the mom has to keep the child and pay rent and buy food.. Soo.. what we as father's are supposed to be homeless & not eat? We have to pay rent too we have to eat as well.. You *** kills me. Yall don't even want to let a *** see his kids. The courts let yall have to much control.. How about shared custody then? Shared custody is a word that scares these hoes Y because that takes child support (their hair and nails money) away that takes all that begging away.
Yes men should should wear condoms but women should use condoms too. *** should keep their skirts on. These broads CAN say no, instead their out here seducing men, running around half naked giving *** out like it's candy. No one's forcing these hoes to be at the club half naked. dropping their panties, bending over letting every Tom *** & harry run a raw *** up in them..
These broads need to be held accountable for their actions as well, made to take a course on abstinence or safe ***, and pay for that child like we do. We as fathers do our part, now what do the mothers do? Besides sit on their *** pointing the finger begging.
The reason child support judges are on their side is because the courts get the most out of the deal, these hoes never get to see most of the child support money because the father must pay the courts back for all the money that these welfare recipients *** get.. They don't get to keep both the welfare check and the child support check.. Baby mommas mainly put men on child support for control and its sick. Broads getting jealous cause they get with a real woman that they love and marry. Baby mamas are just mad cause we don't commit to hood rat skanks. You shoulda kept ya drawers on hoes..
A Fathers responsibility is to HELP take care of the CHILD not the momma.
This is a very disturbing trend going around towards Black females. Not all are gold diggers but this younger generation of Black females (bling generation) are going to be in for rude awakening. Most professional successful Black male professionals are going to turn to other races of women to make partners, that's not me talking that's what I'm told by a lot of these brothers. I agree with the sisters that say get your own. To many young females are basically out to *** child support out these guys and they are not going for it. But its very important for this new generation of black females to stop opening their legs to irresponsible men, those are the ones who already have children in the system and continue to make more. That's the women's fault. Low self esteem excuse is getting old, females need to start thinking about it because when the welfare system collapses and it is going to collapse. How do you intend to take care of children and there is no MAN to assist. No survival skills what so ever. The new SLAVE CLASS will be born.
