@hotlatte i have to say i agree with you 100 percent. I think now is the best time for black women to expand their horizons when looking for a mate. Im not saying ACTIVELY seek another race but keep your options open because I just do not think black men are doing the best job of holding down their communities as men. Funny thing is the women are on here telling other women not to actively seek to IR date it should just happen,and I agree. I just think its funny. Cause you hear black men both in real life and in ALMOST every song bragging about IR dating (exotic,tropic,foreign white chicks) like its the thing to do. they are CLEARLY putting other women first. They have shown you in movies,songs,videos,tv shows and comments on mto regarding their thist for other women. Story of black womens lives: treat black men how they are NOT treating you. smh...
Most of the issues in the black communities has stemmed from black men not being in homes and I will be the first to say I do think that black men have failed their women. When its all said and done and if the black race is diluted it will be discovered it was mainly due to the black man failing their women. Black men do not take responsibility for ANYTHING. No black man comes to the defense of black women. I mean look at our music for goodness sake. Rap music in its artform has been built upon the degradation of the black woman since about mid 90s. Many black men want to degrade the very same thing they love which is a ghetto ***. When rap music became sexist and mysogynistic in the early 90s a BLACK WOMAN by the name of delores tucker put all her energy into protesting it and stopping its spread. Since then (she obviously didnt suceed) black men have completely dominated rap music, *** black women out the music and dehumanized black women along the way. we now live in a post obama era and the black men feel they "made it". in a time post a black president you would THINK its the time black men want to gravitate to their black women most to gain strength in unity right? boy was i wrong.
If you think about it, the whole "swirl" phenominon pinnacled post obama. So black men are basically saying "we think were gods gift now because the president is black so instead of building the black unity we are going to take every opportunity to ditch our women for other women"...that should tell you the overall character of the black man. when things are going good for them, they can and WILL ditch you. Dont believe me? Look at all the famous and rich black men who initially dated black but ditched them once they became sucessful.too many to count. lol. Money just exposes who people are so at the end of the day A BLACK MAN is only as faithful to black women as his options.Again that says alot about character. So now you hear the good black brothers saying "well stop acting like hoochies and loving the thugs you see on tv" gtfoh. I say to that: stop glorifying rap music with hoochies and thugs, and then these FATHERLESS KIDS that see it on tv will stop emulating them. Delores Tucker tried to stop sexist rap. Since Lauryn Hill no black woman with BRAINS could even enter the rap game unless she's being the whorish lil kim type that rappers like to simultaneously degrade and glorify. Im not speaking from emotion
Im speaking from statistics and facts and life experiences. The stats show that black men are ditching their children, they do not take pride in being family men and being committed, they are not seeking to be successful as black women are, and the ones that are successful or the "cream of the crop" have so many options that they are colorstruck and seeking other races. I speak from personal experience I have homegirls who are single mothers with no help from daddy, I have homegirls who cannot get a man to EVER commit after 5 plus years, I have homeboys who say they love nothing more than a becky or redbone.
The second that black women come to the realization that there is life beyond black men is the second they will find themselves happier. again you dont have to seek other races but hey if u happen to vibe w/a white guy just give it a *** its hard enough finding love these days. thing about it is there are white men who like black women there is a force that keeps them apart because white men have their insecurities about pleasing black women sexually. black women have their insecurities about white men aesthetically. bw wm have their own personal hang ups that prevent them from being together more than anything. once thats out the picture it would be fine. theres enough love out here for everybody to get some no one has to be lonely for life.