: Looks like hip hop superstar Pharrell Williams is going to be a new father. MediaTakeOut.com has learned that Vashti Kola, his girlfriend of nearly 5 years, is pregnant with the couple's first child.
A person close to Vashti broke the news exclusively to us. The source tells MediaTakeOut.com, "Vashti and [Pharrell] are trying to keep the pregnancy under wraps, but they're both really excited about it ... they make such a cute couple, I can't wait to see their kids."
Congratulations to them both!!
UPDATE: Pharrell is now denying that he's gotten Vashtie pregnant. And to prove he's not the papa, he's gone so far as having one of his friends lie to the press. According to TMZ.com, one of Pharrell's tall- tale telling friends is claiming that he and Vashtie haven't seen each other for "over a year."
We'd like to hear how his buddy explains these pics, taken just a few weeks ago, that show Vashtie and Pharrell featured in the same photo shoot??? Click here to see pics. We really hope that Pharrell's not trying to pull an Eddie Murphy.
WASNT SHE IN THAT FRONTIN VIDEO? BUT ANYWAY SHE;S PRETTY AND THE BABY WILL BE GORGEOUS. BUT HE MUST HAVE CHEATED ON HER A FEW TIMES BECAUSE I REMEMBER LIKE 3 YEARS AGO WHEN HE WAS ON THE BET RED CARPET HE WAS TALKIN ABOUT HE MESS WITH SOME WHITE CHICK AND HE BOUGHT HER TO THE AWARDS, BUT OH WELL.
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I am truely crushing on this dude and amazed I always thought Pharrell was fund of white chocolate so i thought i never had a chance well now i know i might of had a chance well at least for a second it was well worth it and now it has been nixed again DAMN so i must say CONGRATS to baby girl u got urself one sexi brother and im sure he's a good man Good Luck ;-)
ALTHOUGH IM ALL FOR MARRIAGE BECAUSE I PLAN ON GETTING MARRIED IN THE NEXT FEW YEARS, EVERYONE IS NOT BUILT FOR MARRIAGE AND THEY FIND IT A WASTE OF TIME TO GET MARRIED IF THEY DONT FEEL STRONGLY ABOUT IT. AND PEOPLE WHO GET MARRIED JUST TO DO DONT USUALLY LAST SO THEY LIVE THEIR LIVES TOGETHER WITH KIDS AND THEY ARE FINE. JUST BECAUSE PEOPLE ARE NOT MARRIED THEY SHOULDNT BE ATTACKED WHEN THEY HAVE KIDS. IF THEY DONT WANT TI GET THATS THEIR RIGHT.
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Monique I got it from vanilla_one yesterday and I got it from my coworkers but my coworker read it on ohnotheydidnt.livejournal.com so check it out there but yeah I was like it isn't on tmz or perez hilton so maybe its a legal issue in which they can't post it yet, but that is why I stated celeb blogs instead of an actual site... but we all know he is the papi anyway... sorry to get off subject... oh and I agree marriage ain't for everyone including myself I think sometimes I wish i waited until i was older or something lol
Morning Lis!
AWWWWWWW DAMN!!!!
NOW BECAUSE SHE IS PRETTY I CAN NOT HATE ON HER. I REALLY THINK SHE IS SWEET AND GOOD FOR HIM, BUT I LOVE ME SOME PHARRELL, HE IS SO SEXY AND FINE. I GUESS HE IS NO LONGER PLAYING WITH OYS ON THE SIDE, BUT IN CASE YOU CHANGE YOUR MIND, YOU CAN CALL ME AT ***********, I WILL BE WAITING ON YOU SEXY BOY.. YOU ARE SO SEXY BOY!!!
BONIFIED_TRINI....
i'M WITH YOU..I THOUGHT THE DUDE WAS A DOOKIE CHASER!!LOL
BIGNSWEET1966 IT IS 2007 PPL DONT SHIP YOU OFF SOMEWHERE TO HAVE A BABY ANYMORE IF YOU'RE NOT MARRIED!BUT I GUESS A COMMENT LIKE THAT WOULD COME OUT OF YOUR OLD ASS MOUTH....1966...SO THAT MAKE YOU LIKE HOW OLD??....LMBAO!!
AND SO WHAT IF SHE AINT AFRICAN AMERICAN..HELL I AINT NEVER BEEN TO AFRICA BUT IF YOU PUT ME AND HER SIDE BY SIDE A WHITE PERSON WILL STILL CONSIDER US BOTH BLACK GIRLS SO WHO CARES IF SHES BRAZILIAN OR INDIAN..AT LEAST HE AINT WITH NO STRINGY HEAD ANOREXIC WHITE CHICK!!
I'm wit U MONIQUEP
Marrriage is not for everyone-not everyone is anxious to get married. There is no law that says if you've been together five years-YOU MUST GET MARRIED-I'm happy for them and I think they make a great couple. Some people on here are so dumb and need to sweep around their own doors and probably dont even has so much as a cut friend but has time to worry if these two should get married. Trust!!!! Homegirl is doin GOOD! and seems to be happy with the way things are and thats all that matters.
That's right @TINYTEXASDIAMOND. Tell her old ass, lonely ass, stupid ass, fake ass, dumb ass like it is. This is 2007 ho. I guess we know her bignsweet ass is single
What is with all these people claiming this woman isn't black. "If" she is from Brazil she's still black duh! I mean come on black people live all over Brazil they have the 2nd largest black population of course after Africa. I am happy they are having a baby in all but, I agree with whoever said after five years she's his babies mama not his wife. I mean come on what is wrong with these men having babies like this and not getting married. I hate to say it but, only a sister would go along with that. If she were white she would have been demanding they get married and it would have worked by now! After five years he certainly can't say she's after him for his money.
MARRIAGE IS A HUGE STEP IT SHOULD BE DONE WHEN BOTH PEOPLE FEEL THEY ARE READY 4 THAT STEP. IM NOT SAYING I WOULD WAIT FOR 8 YEARS WITH SOMEONE BUT..SOME PEOPLE WILL, ME AND MY KING HAVE BEEN DATING FO 3 YEARS AND WE HAVE A CHILD BUT IM NOT FORCING HIM CAUSE IF I DO I WOULD HAVE A FU(KED UP MARRIAGE!!!
@SEXY KIMMIE WHERE ARE YOU GETTING YOUR STATS FROM. THERE IS A BILLION AND ONE WHITE COUPLES THAT HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR LONG PERIODS OF WITH KIDS AND THEY ARE NOT MARRIED. HOW DARE YOU SAY ONLY SISTAS STAY WITH THEIR MEN HAVE KIDS AND ARE OK WITH NOT GETTING MARRIED. THATS JUST WRONG. LIKE I SAID MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR EVERYBODY NO MATTER WHAT COLOR THEY ARE. WHAT DAY AND AGE ARE WE LIVING IN? PEOPLE CAN DO WHATEVER THE HELL THEY WANT TO DO, AS LONG AS THEY ARE NOT HURING ANYONE LEAVE THEM THE HELL ALONE./
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my gosh! my gosh! certain heffers are jealous of this chick! she is beautiful, and they have been going strong for 5 years? that's a great thing! why can't we just celebrate this miracle instead of saying hateful things like she needs plastic surgery? anyways the only thing that could make this better is a ring on this girl's finger, but they should do it on their own time! who are we to judge? smh, jealous heffers! oh and she's not brazillian, she's indian!
To me, she kinda looks like Chili from TLC but although marriage isn't for everybody, at least you can get out of a marriage if it doesn't work, but when you have KIDS with someone, that's forever! All these rappers and hollywood people having these illegitimate kids, treating it like a fad. That's why half our kids don't have a stable home now!
@ WomanOfACertainAge
I agree! not just celebrities people in general. If you have no desire to get married and you want children that's up to you. Honestly I feel like the majority of women don't fit that category. sistahs are getting with men, playing wifey, having babies, making a home for men who aren't thinking about marrying them. While I'm happy for them and I hope all works out and they eventually get married. I kinda feel like enough is enough. If you ask most white women why they don't have children they will say because I'm not married. Alot of sistahs will say I don't have a man. It's about a mind frmae and wanting more for yourself, wanting the total package. Lebron James just has another baby with his girlfriend. It's kinda sad. Back in the day a man would look at a woman and say I want her to be my wife.. now it's I wanna take her down. unless you are someone who doesn't desire marriage ladies stop making babies with your boyfriends. I don't understand the concept of wanting to raise a child with someone, but you don't love & respect them enough to marry them. Maybe it's just me!
@Monique, i totally agree with u, marriage is not for everyone. People can whateva the heck they want as long as they taking care of their business.
Y do people think commitment equals marriage. I know plenty of couples who have been together for yrs and not married. commitment means 2 people who love, trust, take care of each other and definately communication, u have married couples with none of these qualities. If u r happy together that's all that matters. Pharrell and his lady should not b judged cuz their not married, how about he ain't beating her, hopefully he's not cheating and in these pics they look very happy together.
itiswhatitis you and the other lady have to understand we are dealing with a new generation with me included, and sometimes putting a title on something makes things messy, sometimes I feel like the saying "why fix something that isn't broke" applied to me cuz me and my hubby was just fine before we tied the knot, now we fight over stupid shyt etc. but that is neither here or there, I just feel like marriage doesn't define a relationship sorry, and in the older days people only married because of financial situations or because of what family stated they had to, now people see pass all that...
@Strongblackwoman, u on point. U can love, honor and respect someone and not b married and sometimes when u do get married it complicates things, U r so right about that. Nowadays people get married for all the wrong reasons, that's y the divorce rate is so high. I don't want no man to married for any other reason then the fact that he loves, honors and respect me. Not cuz i'm pregnant or financial reasons or cuz our parents want us to, to only b unhappy
@ strongblackwoman
I understand what you are saying. I di realize we are a different generation but does honestly you get what you put out there. There are many women who desire to be married, but they either give the guy to much to soon, or start popping out babies so the men take the easy route and never marry them. There are many couples that have better relationships that married people have, that's an individual thing. Is it safe to assume that becasue we are a different generation we should lower our standards? The thing is this is not so much about the fact that people are havign babies out of wedlock for whatever reason and being fine with it. This has everything to do with sistahs who are selling themselves short. Like I said if you have no desire to be married then that's up to you but that's not the the case most of the time.
Sometimes relationships work better with girlfriend and boyfriends title. Instead of husband and wife. Women are always pressuring men to make a commitment. Sometimes people change after marriage. End up divorcing a few years later. Why go through all that drama? Yep your right SBW... Marrying someone will not make them love you more.
@ITISWHATITIS, i'm sorry, i don't agree with u. If u have a man that loves and respect u how r u selling urself short? or would it b better if ur married to a man that abuse, cheat and disrespect u. In my opnion when u said selling urself short i assume ur talking about a woman being in a relationship with a man who does not handle his business is a woman selling herself short or vise versa, but if ur happy like Pharrell and his lady, she's not selling herself short. She's happy and that's the most important thing.
Trish I got that from my coworkers and this celeb blog, its posted earlier on this post...
itiswhatitis my question to you why do you think a person is selling themselves short by not getting married? I really don't know the statistics about who wants to get married and who doesn't, my question to you is why do people feel marriage makes the relationship better? people should get married because they truly want to, my thing is I feel me and my hubby could have stayed bf/gf and it would have made no difference, I just don't see how marriage secures the deal or make things better, the only thing in my opinon about marriage is that it secures financial only making the couple one person in the government eyes...
However I'm not knocking marriage by any means, if I can do it all I again I will, my thing is I just never understand how people can knock others who have babies out of wedlock etc. AT least its they are still a healthy loving couple is what should really matter.. but that is my opinion, I feel what you are saying... but I dont' feel like my generation is lowering our standards because we choose otherwise... our generation today is raised by parents who is teaching their young women and men to be independent, not find a man who will marry you, and that's just real so if you are going to blame anyone then it would have to be the parents of the children of this generation, and I will be to blame in the future as well because when I am blessed with kids I will be teaching them about independence as well, and love someone for who they are not if they will marry u or what they can do for you... but to each its own... a major generation gap...
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@ standard
I hear you. you don't have to agree with me. True indeed you can be in a relationship with a man who handles his business and married to one who doesn't. If you've been with a man and then marry him and he doesn't handle his responsibility chances are he never was. Men are creatures of habit. Most men don't change over night. That's neither here nor there. My point is when a man finds a woman that he values he marries her (given he's not a man who doesn't desire marriage) When a man repsects,loves, and values you enough to make a woman his life partner he proposes to her. I think we've gottne so accustomed to failed marriages that we can't fathum a succesful one. At the end of the day to each his own, btu I will not be a babies mother, nor wil I play wifey to a man. Like I said before that's just me!
so itiswhatitis you feel if a woman gets pregnant she has to be married? just having a stable relationship isn't enough? what is playing wifey? so a wife have roles? what roles do a girlfriend play? not starting any cyberbeef lol, I'm just really trying to understand your view point...
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@ strongblackwoman
I never said if you get pregnant get married. All of the thing I'm saying applies to women who want to get married. If you are someone who desires marriage, hold off on the kids until you do get married. It's like we have kids first and think about marriage second???!! Playing wifey is a home for a man and living like your are husband and wife (again speaking on the women who want to get married but sell themselves short) Understand of you have no desire to get married this is not for you, but I see many women daily who regret decisions they've made in relationships and when it was all said and done they are left bitter and with raising children by themselves. What I'm havign trouble understanding is why is everyone so quick to have children with men they don't want to marry? Why is my point so hard to understand? I don't get it
Hey everyone, I'm a new member and I love this web site but their is definitely alot of HATING! I say she's cute doesn't matter what nationality she is. It is 2007, as long as people focus on what race can be with what race, this f'ed up world is never gonna change. And I agree, marriage is not for everybody and as long as they are happy what do we care?? And again not ALL "white girls" for people into marriage, I have been with my man for 5 years and I am happy as can be. I will get married one day, maybe to him, maybe not.
okay itiswhatitis, I'm sorry but that wasn't clear in your previous statement that is why I asked, but I cosign if you are speaking of women who want to get married but sell themselves short, I'm sorry I was under the impression you were referring to all women who have kids from long time boyfriends...
Brazillians have black in them , some are completely black. So I do see her as a black woman, but it should matter to us who he chooses as his mate and they make a great looking couple. But if she is pregnant, than he should marry her. My question is, why dont black men commit and marry their women rather than making them the "babymomma"
MAYBE THEY DONT WANT TO GET MARRIED BUT DOES WANT TO HAVE KIDS. JUST BECAUSE A WOMAN HAS A BABY BY A MAN AND DOES NOT WANT TO MARRY HIM DOESNT MEAN SHE SHOULD NOT HAVE HIS BABY. MAYBE IN HER EYES AND BY THE WAY HE CARRIES HIMSELF SHE FEELS HE IS WORTHY ENOUGH TO BE THE FATHER OF HER CHILDREN BUT SHE'S JUST NOT THE TYPE OF PERSON TO GET MARRIED. THATS THE POINT THAT IS GOING OVER YOUR HEAD ITISWHATISIT.
Strongblack, again I agree. Marriage is for some, maybe not for others. One thing for sure, it doesn't guarantee anything. Financially, people do have a way of working things out for present and future needs. However, I think, that marriage is way less important than love and marriage doesn't guarantee that.
I just finished reading through most of these posts and had to post again -- yes I said the same thing about tom and katie, and everyone else who keeps treating having these babies like it's a hobby. It's important to committed, AND married -- the children are affected and hurt most by some of yall's thinking, even though it might not show up right away and clearly, it will manifest itself in other ways, trust and believe.
It's NOT okay to keep doing this and giving high fives and best wishes behind it, and all this "well some people ain't made for marriage" and "some people get along better without being married" is nonsense -- if that's the case, they don't need to be making babies together. Let's grow up for the sake of our poor lost race.
people please with the race shyt black folks arent' the only muthfukas having kids out of wedlock and black women aren't the only baby momma's, so please with that! and to me personally a baby momma is a woman who isn't with her kid's father, this chick is not a baby momma she is his girlfriend who happens to be pregnant with his child, damn people think for yourself sometimes and quit jumping on the bandwagon and letting people put shyt in your head...
and why is this girl's race an issue seriously...
Scarlett quit instigating lol...
all i can say about Pharrell is YUM!!
Where's that hypocrite who's always quoting the Bible when gay stuff is on MTO? aint it funny how we can always find a Bible quote about homosexuality yet we can NEVER seem to find one about fornicating and having children out of wedlock? Not hating on Pharrell just that corny hypocrite broad who's always judging folks on here & using the Bible as a weapon against people she personally has a problem with.
@keeno1, r u saying that having a baby out of wedlock will affect the baby, what if the couple is happy together?
There's a girl at my job that thinks marriage is the ultimate love, but after only 10 months of marriage her husband is cheating on her. Now me personally, I'd rather have a b/f that loves and respect me, then a HUSBAND that treats me like sh1t
@ standard
Personally if I were in a relationship with a man who wasn't opposed to marriage, and he wanted to have children then see if we get around to marriage. Yes I wouldn't think he values or respects me. Figure out your plans for me and lets follow through, then we'll discuss raising a family..
IM DONE WITH THIS CUZ PEOPLE ARE REALLY CLOSE MINDED. WHERE IS IT WRITIN THAT ONLY MARRIED COUPLES RAISE HEALTHY AND WELL ROUNDED KIDS THAT WILL GROW UP BETTER BECAUSE THEY HAVE TWO PARENTS IN THE HOUSEHOLD? DO YOU KNOW HOW MANY MARRIED COUPLES WHO HAVE KIDS ARE IN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS? DO YOU KNOW HOW MUCH THAT EFFECTS KIDS? MARRIED PEOPLE ARE JUST LIKE UNMARRIED PEOPLE THEY JUST HAVE A LITTLE BIT MORE BENEFITS AND A DAMN PIECE OF PAPER. KIDS GROW UP ALL DIFFERENT KINDS OF WAYS WHETHER THEIR PARENTS RAISED THEM RIGHT OF NOT, THEY ARE GOING TO GROW UP AND DO WHATEVER THE HELL THEY WANT JUST LIKE WE ARE DOING RIGHT NOW. A CHILD COULD COME FROM A HAPPY FAMILY AND THEIR PARENTS COULD HAVE MARRIED FOR 30 YEARS AND THAT CHILD COULD BE A PSYCHO KILL JUST LIKE A KID WHO WAS RAISED BY A SINGLE PARENT. YOUR MARITAL STATUS DOES NOT DEFINE HOW YOUR KIDS WILL TURN OUT NEITHER DOES YOUR PARENTING SKILLS YOU JUST GOTTA HOPE AND PRAY YOU DID ALL YOU COULD DO TO TACH YOUR KIDS RIGHT FROM WRONG AND HOPE THEY FOLLOW WHAT YOU TAUGHT THEM INTO ADULT HOOD.
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Alot of sensible men don't commit because it's free to have the cow and the milk. When you go and commit your in the worst trouble because being married is not what it's cracked up to be and if you divorce you are stuck as a man with breaking off half. Why go through it.. You can have a family the old fashion ghetto way..
She is cute, and I think they make an adorable couple. I'm not sure what her race is but hey, I guess it works for Pharell.
What up strongblackwoman, yesterday I was listening to the motor mouth Wendy Williams and she announced that Eddie Murphy was the father. I don't know where she got her info from, but that's what I was riding off of. I don't see it on any other site and I'm sure MTO would of put that as headline news instead of Pharell and his girlfriend. lol
As far as this whole marriage issue, most couples prefer to keep it just as a long term relationship, whether a child is being raised by a single parent or both parents that child is gone grow up with it's own choices in life. They may develop great values but that can be learned from single parenting. Some children are raised with both parents and they child still grow up to be murderers, drug/alcohol abusers, child molesters and the whole nine.
Me personally, I prefer not to be married based on my past relationships where I've been cheated on twice and that was enough to convince me that being married was not part of my agenda. I know they say don't let one apple spoil the whole bunch but hey that was enough for me. Because I figure if I was married and I got cheated on then I would of been in a whole 'nother predictament. Yar probably would of read the headlines "Crazy deranged bitch cut off husband's penis and stuffed it in his mouth along with bullet wound up the ass".
Today at work, I decided to bring my Pharrell CD. I hadn't heard it in a while. As soon as the first song started, I logged on to mediatakeout and look what I see! That is so weird. Anyway, even though I have a mad crush on Pharrell, I am happy that he has a beautiful black woman. Stop hatin people. She's gorgeous and very natural. Not every celebrity roles with model chicks.
bignsweet1966 Flag post Yet another black couple bringing another black bastard into this world. After five years, she gets to be not a wife but a "baby momma." Thats so sweet(fake smile). Well, at least she picked a man who is able to support a child. ================================================== I hope you know how NIGNORANT you are for that remark. Do you know the two words used to make up "NIGNORANT"? Figure it out? Because they both apply to your dumb @ss.
M_I_L_F having children is an even bigger step than marriage! Why because at least if you found out you married the wrong person there is always divorce...the kids are yours for life! Marriage only affects the two getting married, having a baby affects the and innocent person who did not ask to be here! I just found out that I am becoming an aunt AGAIN and my brother has 3 children already for 3 women! "I" demanded that he marry his current pregnant girlfriend because this is becoming stupid and he needs to make a family with this woman and their child this time instead of like the last 3 missing out on being a part of their life. He has hurt 3 children by not being an effective and active part of their lives..yeah he pays thier support but children need more than money, they need a males love and time and emotional support. Look at Lebron and his girlfriend just dropping babies left and right, unless they sign some type of co-habitation agreement these baby mama's are screwed! So what you get a hefty child support check, what about the mother's rights when she has been with a man supporting his career and whatever for years? Some of you fail to realize all the benefits that a spouse (male or female) are intitled to in the event of one their deaths. How many of your jobs allow you to add your baby mama onto your insurance plan? How many baby mama's do you know recieve death benefits? Not only that if the woman ever really wants to be married but never marries her baby's father, depending on the number of kids she has this will also reduce her chances of marriage or maybe not cause we all know how some men will run out on their own kids and then pick up with some other woman and her kids!
ATTENTION THIS IS SO FAKE!!!!
FROM TMZ.COM
Pharrell is NOT Going to Be a Baby Daddy
A report burning up the net claims that superproducer Pharrell Williams is going to be a daddy with his "girlfriend of nearly 5 years," Vashtie Kola, who's pregnant with their kid.
But Pharrell tells TMZ that the news is "100% not true," and we're told by a source close to Williams that he hasn't even seen her in over a year.
MediaTakeOut.com reported the "news," claiming that the couple are trying to keep the pregnancy "under wraps," but our source says that Kola actually has a new boyfriend, and that no one is even certain that she's pregnant. We're told that Pharrell is "not sure why this is coming out now."
MONIQUEP
@SEXY KIMMIE WHERE ARE YOU GETTING YOUR STATS FROM. THERE IS A BILLION AND ONE WHITE COUPLES THAT HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR LONG PERIODS OF WITH KIDS AND THEY ARE NOT MARRIED. HOW DARE YOU SAY ONLY SISTAS STAY WITH THEIR MEN HAVE KIDS AND ARE OK WITH NOT GETTING
there are lots of white couples who have children out of wedlock,but if you read statistics and live in a heavily populated area with blacks you would know that there are much more unmarried black couples than whites.that's a fact,a sad one,but a fact nonetheless.why are so many black women in denial?i live in atlanta,meet and talk to many black women everyday where i work,and alot of them yearn for a good man,they yearn to be married and have a nice family;and that's natural,so what i don't get it when you have black women trying to explain the low marriage rate amongst blacks as"not everybody wants to be married" when the numbers are beyond that.then there's the xtreme "would you rather marry an abusive husband"...don't marry a no good man.can someone please come better than that?
@ITISWHATITIS
Not saying going into a marriage with the frame of mind that its not gonna work. I'm saying marriage is not forever, its suppose to b but its not. U might plan to get married, but divorces r not plans and it happens more then ever now. Be happy with what's going on in ur life NOW cuz the furture is not promised and neither is marriage
Most of those people at TMZ don't even know who Pharrell is.
At this point, the discussion is more interesting the news story. It's true that not every black woman wants to get married. And among those who don't feel their life depends on it, it's not like they just woke up the day they started puberty and said they don't want to get married. A lot of life happens to get you to that point.
I agree with itiswhatitis...
I'm from the 'new generation' and I very much value my independence...however, where I'm from, being a 'wife' holds a helluva lot more clout than being a 'baby's mother' regardless of whether or not our relationship is strong and loving and trustworthy and all that other great stuff...
I'd much rather be a wife than a baby's mother
I_Love_I_am: okay why would you worry about what others think of you? I ask this because you stated wife holds more clout than baby mama... see this is my problem with this fuked up Patriarchal society have women thinking they have roles in society assuming that if you want a better life play your role and get married, when you can have a better life without that title you and your soulmate... I'm not judging you nor do I find ANYTHING WRONG WITH PEOPLE WHO WANT TO GET MARRIED FOR THE RIGHT REASONS AND NOT BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT SOCIETY TELLS YOU IS THE RIGHT THING TO DO...
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Quoted from TMZ.com:
A report burning up the net claims that superproducer Pharrell Williams is going to be a daddy with his "girlfriend of nearly 5 years," Vashtie Kola, who's pregnant with their kid.
But Pharrell tells TMZ that the news is "100% not true," and we're told by a source close to Williams that he hasn't even seen her in over a year.
MediaTakeOut.com reported the "news," claiming that the couple are trying to keep the pregnancy "under wraps," but our source says that Kola actually has a new boyfriend, and that no one is even certain that she's pregnant. We're told that Pharrell is "not sure why this is coming out now."
man itiswhatitis then I must be using the wrong damn birthcontrol cuz I got pregnant in 2005 and not on purpose and i took my pill every day at the same time never missed a day and my ass popped up preggars lol.... no kids though... lost it... but we even had on a condom... i just might have bad luck lol...
Hey itiswhatitis- guess what you can have an oops, it happens everyday. Who uses a condom, takes birth control, uses a sponge and pulls out? that's about the only prevention next to celabacy. I'll abmit I take the pill and I have never been pregnant neither have you, but that makes us lucky not more careful
Having a child with your husband is an honor. All children are blessings. See the problem is that we have so many women being reared in household without daddy's that they can not phathom the idea of what it would be like to have a dad in the household. Now that's sad. This is not meant to put anyone down. I feel like I can speak(type)freely because I am a bastard child just like they say Jesus was. My mom and dad just went and did they thang but its all good I am not mad at them I have just learned to make some different choices in my life. A child needs needs both parents. Its so unfair for a mother to rear her children alone just like its unfair for father to do it all by himself. The child wasn't created by one. It was created by 2 so why not 2 share in the continual growth and development of the child.
I understand why the younger generation is so angry and disillusioned and sad. They want they daddy. Oh and Happy Fathers Day to all the Dads.
@ITISWHATIITIS:
I'm not saying every marriage will fail, but my thing is things happen whether ur married or not, u can b in an abusive relationship or marriage. I'm tryna understand what's so important about the "title" Someone said they would much rather b a wife then a baby momma whether or not the situation is healthy. To me that person sounds insecure. I don't wanna b no man's wife if they don't treat me right, just like i don't wanna b no man's b/f if he don't treat me right. Marriage does not mean put u on a pedestal.
Hey italiancutie26 must be a newbie!
Suggamama: I hear you and cosign with the fact a child does need both parents, but I guess I put a glitch in your study because I was raised by a man a man alone, and my mom ditched on us, so therefore I'm not speaking out from not having a father, but I do understand where you are coming from, my dad just raised me to do things that you are comfortable with and not because you are told too...
@ standard
I agree I wouldn't wan tto be in a relationship/marriage with a man that treats me bad, but FOR ME part of it is repsect, and it is the ultimate commitment. I know the marriage CAN end in divorce but atleast my man though enough of me to make the commitment. Having a bf is an agreement/understanding. Having a husband is totally different
You know what MTO- IAM SICK OF YALL SH!T WIT DA FUKKIN LIES. Yall HAVE GOT TO DO BETTER. How hard is it to just post sh1t thats dam true. Somebody is gonna sue da brakes off yall asses and we gone be somewhere else bloggin laughing our asses off- THIS SH!T IS RIDICULOUS. Yall always lyin-FOR NO REASON- GET IT TOGETHER- A S A FUKKIN P
I'm just wondering. I'm not married and I don't have kids but I have been with my b/f for 5 years. Some would say why stay together for so long and not get married? I think there is alot of speculation going on here about what is right and wrong for everyone but in all actually what is right or wrong for me or you, might not be right or wrong for everyone else.
@ standard
If I am in a relationship with a man and he deosn't marry me then no obviously I'm not the one for him. I am not abut wasting my time, and since I will not have children out of wedlock (and having children is something that I strongly desire) why waste time with someone who deosn't have the same goals in mind? It might be bull to you, but like I said FOR ME this how it is.
HEY MIAMI THAT WAS SOME FUNNY SHHHHH!!!!LMBAO I WAS DAMN NEAR CRYING CAUSE I COULD BUSS OUT LAUGHING!! I NEEDED THAT WITH ALL THESE SERIOUS CONVERSATIONS GOING ON.. WELL LET ME SAY THIS, I AM A SINGLE PARENT WHO TRIES TO WORK THINGS OUT WITH MY SON'S FATHER SO MY CHILD CAN GROW UP IN A TWO PARENT HOME AND ALSO BECAUSE THERE ARE THINGS I CANT TEACH HIM BEING A WOMAN THAT ONLY A MAN CAN.BUT IN THE SAME INSTANCE WE DONT GET ALONG..SO WHY GET MARRIED JUST BECAUSE SOCIETY SAYS ITS RIGHT AND BE UNHAPPY? PLUS THAT HAVING A BABY OUT OF WEDLOCK IS SO PLAYED OUT!!! WHO DOES THAT ANYMORE!!
5 years and now this chick is preg? common people he always said he wanted 2 be married first be4 he started knocking bitches up, either p need to get it together or this is BS and pharrell iz too much of a ladies man to be tied up and he yell single all the time check it out your self www.myspace.com/therealcaress
This is late but...@strongblackwoman: It isn't so much about what other people think, for me, I'm just stating a fact about where I'm from. For me it's more about the biblical institution of marriage. @ standard....sweetie, I'm not insecure ~smiles~ I guess what I said came out the wrong way...when I said I'd rather be a wife than a babies mother regardless of the love etc etc I didn't mean I'd settle for a marriage where there was no love...I meant that if our relationship is going to be one of love and trust and respect etc etc REGARDLESS of what title we use with one another, why not use the title of Husband and Wife. We will still have the love..trust..etc etc regardless...I hope I cleared that up
Pharrell is NOT Going to Be a Baby Daddy Posted Jun 15th 2007 12:32PM by TMZ Staff Filed under: Music
A report burning up the net claims that superproducer Pharrell Williams is going to be a daddy with his "girlfriend of nearly 5 years," Vashtie Kola, who's pregnant with their kid.
But Pharrell tells TMZ that the news is "100% not true," and we're told by a source close to Williams that he hasn't even seen her in over a year.
MediaTakeOut.com reported the "news," claiming that the couple are trying to keep the pregnancy "under wraps," but our source says that Kola actually has a new boyfriend, and that no one is even certain that she's pregnant. We're told that Pharrell is "not sure why this is coming out now."
Fake!
Great conversation going- i wish i hadn't gotten into it so late. But let's be real - most of the times its really the MAN who doesn't want to marry the WOMAN who is pregnant with his kid.
The woman may act as though it's no big deal- but really- I think most of the time she would ...esp. after having the child and really seeing how hard it is to be a single mom.
Men who have "girlfriends" with kids by them- CHEAT. Sorry- but it's true. A man not being "ready" is his way of letting the woman know he still wants to mess with other women---or in the back of his mind he's thinking there is still something better out there that he might find- and he doesnt want the legal tie down.
All the young ladies saying marriage isn't important- are probably still young. But young ladies listen- as you get older you're minds will probably change!!!! You do eventually get tired of clubbing 4 nights a week- and the stuff that was important isn't....when a woman (and most men) get older they want to have a "life partner" ...not saying you have to be married- but honestly- men can be the biggest dawgs -most still but "wifey" in a special category in their minds!
I understand what @itiswhatitis has been sayinng all along. Women have to stop "settling" and convincing ourselves it's o.k. Until we start being really honest with what it is we want in our relationships and not only demanding it--- but sticking by the Demand-----
As mi abuela (granny) used to say- "A man's only gonna do what you let him"....and "why buy the milk when you already got the cow"....
There's a reason why these sayin's have been around sooooooo long- they are true!
wow!
i am soooooo late with this and i'm sure this post will be up for a while...
she is a beautiful girl and looking at her, you would think that pahrell wouldn't mind having a bazillion babies w/ her.
BUT, who knows how this lady carries herself as a woman, friend, daughter, or potential mother. what's behind that smile??? just b/c she's pretty doesn't mean that she's wife material and we shouldn't point the finger at these rich celebrities and blame them for not wanting to marry these women they get pregant or date for waaaaaaaaay too long! we think that men aren't as serious about marriage...WRONG! they are pickier than women.
all the money in the world doesn't make you smart and for damn sure can't buy integrity. just b/c you're pretty DOES NOT mean a man will marry you, give you half his loot, not to mention impregnate you so that his kids will have a 50/50 chance of being just as trifling as the female he's gotten pregnant. there are some men out there who care about these things!
and yes... i do agree w/ tmarti30 quite a bit!
ladies we have to start showing some respect and earn it so these men won't have any excuse to treat us like the diamonds we are. if these men had more than a body to work with. i'm talkin about the woman who can hold her own, financially, mentally, spiritually...is cultured and listens to more than just beyonce and lil wayne, then maybe these guys wouldn't have to hop around wasting their time w/ chicks who ONLY poseess 25% of each characterstic.
yes...they make a cute couple, but the future is forever. DOES that beautiful (and that lady is gorgeous) have what it takes to keep that man happy FOREVER! can she assure him of that OUTSIDE the bedroom?????
men want LOVE to. they just go about finding it differently.
BUT, they do make a gorgeous couple. she's rare! i hope she's more than just a pretty face
peace.
I dont think they have been together for 5 years..he was dating Jade Jagger and I dont think that was more than 5 years ago..I have to agree with Zebrahead and TMarti30..the people who are saying its no big deal for them to be together that long and still not be married especially now that shes pregnant are either young, or are babies mommas..women who say they dont care about marriage are programmed into believing this after their man constantly tells them hes not trying to marry them..she has to force herself to believe that..or she keeps dating losers who wont commit so she gives up and thinks it will never happen for her..so she makes herself believe that marriage is no big deal..these women that get with rappers and celebs dont always have the best character or judgment and just because Pharell is never in the center of controversy and isnt a thug, doesnt mean hes the best candidate to have a child with..we dont know anything personal about this man-and being filthy rich isnt a good enough reason to have a baby with him..black and latino people have to stop bringing kids into this world out of wedlock and into borken homes or potentially disasterous conditions-Example-Jay-Z and his bastard son..hes tucked away in some remote island, getting denied left and right..what kind of life is that for a child? how is his self worth going to be knowing his daddy isnt proud to introduce his son to the world? these babies mommas situations with celebs end up with the couple splitting up, the father paying a ridiculous amount in child support, and the mother not caring if the father and child have a relationship, as long as the checks are rolling in..
TRINI 2 THE BONE SHE IS. THIS GIRL IS NOT FROM BRAZIL, SHE WOULD BE CONSIDERED A {DOUGLA, DOUGLA, DOUGLA} IN TRINIDAD, WHICH IS A BLACK TRINI AND AN INDIAN TRINI MIXTURE. AND I DON'T THINK 2 PRETTY PEOPLE MAKE UGLY BABIES. BECAUSE I'M A PRETTY A$$ BLACK SISTA AND I HAVE A HANDSOME A$$ SON WITH MY FIANCE WHO IS ALSO A {TRINI WHO IS CONSIDERED A DOUGLA. I MEAN LOOKS DON'T MATTER AND ALL, BUT 4 THE COMMENT SOMEWHERE AT THE TOP, UM 2 PRETTY PEOPLE MAKE UGLY BABIES? NAW, THAT'S JUST SOMETHING {UGLY} PEOPLE SAY! I HOPE THEY ARE HAPPY, AND I KNOW PHARRELL LOOKS CAN BE DECEIVING, BUT SHE SEEM'S LIKE A KEEPER, AND CONGRAT'S.
I put up a response that said " statistics show that black men are les likely to marry their women compared to other races." Then it got removed. I was thinking maybe someone flagged it as inappropriate. I was just stating the facts, not trying to offend anyone. But I realize there are a few people on here who take the internet very seriously. Anyways I am just reporting the facts and my statement was a follow up to a question I had about Pharrel not marrying this chick if she happens to be married. Oh well anyways, who really cares and I wish them well....if they are together....having a baby......hope you had a glorious weekend...ciao!
Dang. I guess I can 4get about ny chance of me n Pharrell being 2getha huh. Boo-Hoo. As fa dis lil "news" ppl dnt kno wat dey tombout. Dey jus need to shutup. But I thanx yall lilniggas 4 finally showin me how his girl or ex-girl look. I saw a pic of dem togetha b4 i jus aint kno who she was. Dats real talk rite there
That girl features are very average. Ya'll know you are saying she is pretty because of her hair. Ya'll did the same shyt with the Game's baby mama. She was ugly until ya'll saw her hair and then all of a sudden she became cute. If this chic did not have the so called "good hair" no one would say she was pretty.
If you are light you have to be mixed with something or if your hair is loosely curled you have to be mixed with something... black people need to get over the dumb shyt.
Guess wat yall. Media Takeout gat da story wrong cuz TMZ.com say dat ol' girl say she aint even wit him no mo. Pharrell say da same thing and he say he aint even seen her inna yr. He dnt kno y dem rumors cumin out. Oh yeah, from wat I hear Vashtie, wateva kinda name dat is, gatta a different man. Dnt believe everything yall read or hear. But im happy cuz ma sexy husband aint cheatin on me
hu the heck care's wot colour or race she is, at the end of the day we all have the same blood colour which is R E D, they will make wonderful parents, and their babies r gonna be soooo well cared for and loved, it's great they have been together for five years good on them.... and marrage aint everything it's just a piece of paper.
