: One of’s readers – a self proclaimed “DL Brotha” sent us the following essay – describing why he does what he does. We’re gonna call it the “DL Brutha Manifesto”. Here you go ladies, you might need to send this to a few girlfriends…

First of all, I would like to say emphatically that to all black women – I LOVE YOU!!!!. I respect you. I adore you. To me, there is nothing more powerful nor more sexy nor more divine than seeing you walk proudly in the sunlight of your blackness, your femininity, your sexuality, your sass, your strength, and your spirituality.

But sometimes, I want to taste a man…..

It’s not that I’m gay, homosexual, bisexual or any of those things. I don’t claim any of those titles and so if you ask me if I’m gay, homo, or bi – I’ll tell you “No”. I’m just a brother that knows what he likes. That’s all.

Now, if you ask me if I have sex with men, I’ll tell you “No”. Yes, I know that lying is wrong and God don’t like ugly. But, if I laid with you, and made sweet love to you, and then told you that sometimes I like to go inside a man….you wouldn’t want me. Our relationship would be over. And, more than likely, you would “warn” your friends about me. And so, I lie. Not because I am trying to deceive you, but because I just don’t think you need to know. All it will do is destroy what we have.

You see, honesty is not as simple as you think….

One day I’ll stop, I’ll settle down with my black queen. I can’t promise that I’ll completely stop experiencing men. There’s just something about it that draws me. But, I do know that I won’t do it nearly as much. Well, I don’t know that, but I don’t think I’ll do it as much.

To the woman I will one day marry : I promise to be a good husband, and a good father to our children, and a good grandfather to our children. I’ll love you, and protect you, and cherish you, and make you laugh, and dry your tears, try to give you the kind of home you have always wanted, and do my best to make your life as happy as it can be.
But sometimes, I’ll still want a man……

Now this is some mess right here ….