This is a forum post by the user indigo102
: It is truly sad that most of all of our influentual men as in athletes, rappers, actors, etc... are all involve with women of another race. I think that it is almost like self hate, I know that sometimes you can not help who you fall in love with but our black men are taking or has taken this a bit to far. Black men are the only race that seems to go out of their way to not date a black woman, if they were to date one they would want for her to be on a certain level, or before or after her name must follow Dr.,PA,RN,ESQ and etc.... Which I would never understand that when they would take a white stripper, waitress, nanny, bartender and etc... I guess as long as she is white or of another race it doesn't matter what she does. If you look at Fat Joe videos he does not have black girls in his videos he has all Latina's but of course if we look at a Plies video he has all Latina's, whites, asian, hell I think that he had every race but black in his video. Whats so appalling is that the women that are checking for you now would not have looked your way if you were'nt a rapper or an athlete and their family or peers would not agree with their decision to date a black man and I can almost bet my life that when you are not around you are every *** MONKEY GHETTO in the book. The sad thing is we look like your mother, your grandmother, your sister, and your auntwho raised you and molded you into the successful man that you are so its like you are *** on their face. I have just had it up to my *** with this, it is an epidemic amongst the black race, you very seldom see white men, asian men, or latin men dating someone outside of their race. The moral of this posting is this, just please take another look we come in all shades that's the beauty of us. Some of us are educated, some of us are working towards education and most of us are just working trying to make it but majority of us are single due to the lack of black men. I am just asking that you black men be more conscience of the choices that you guys are making.
Those black men don't hate black women. They hate themselves. The image of the black woman has been completely tarnished in the media...The weak mind-ed individuals believe the propaganda so easily, and it get's to the point where they are almost embarrassed to have us on their right hand side.
Every black man is not like that however...only the weak-minded with low-self esteem and indulged in ignorance.
Keep looking...There are some amazing black men
I support interracial dating & marriage.
*Some men just are not attracted to " Black" Women. *Some men have had not so great experience with Black Women and now he's against them.
Black woman are portrayed as weak, ignorant, classless, and juvenile .
People think the " lighter the better"
Prejudice ness will always plague the African - American / Black Culture.
Black men are men first and for most. Any grown *** man acting like a boy is that a boy. Player and *** are not born ( usually very rare) they are made by women. Game sharpens game. Keep braking hearts a heart will harden. Keep playing games and you will find yourself *** out of luck. A boy is usually emotional until he becomes a man. By then he has all ready been over exposed to the game girls play but keep playin even until adult hood (usually sub consciously). As a man he is a mental creature. Not many emotions and love is more like work not a simple feeling. Black men dont hate black women; Too many black women act like they hate black men and the refuse to truelly trust us or respect us. How many black women will kill them selves for dat devil boss and come home and totally disregard what a man is (especially the manual labor made some mistakes black man) and goes through on a daily (as well as try to get *** together with you kickin and screaming the whole way) and tell him or let him know in all that you say and do that he aint ***. For real is black man so bad that all these female song is about the dumb *** BOY u chose. Stop playing your self botton line its a war going on. Real Men vs Grown as Boys and we are highly out numbered. No body is truelly checking for us. They got the money and power and the image that YOU gave them for woman are the majority consumers and EVERYTHING is modeled to get your attention even most men products. Clothes, actors , rappers images are for your attention, For a real man is about 2 things. Family happiness. and Survival. Tell me I'm wrong and I will prove you a lie or confused. THEY set out to separate us and we both fell for it. Not Even trying to go hard on chicks but true talk MEN WILL BE MEN. BOYZ WILL BE BOYZ. But women; BLACK WOMEN ARE THE GAME CHANGERS. For most of OUR EXISTENCE is or should be a direct tie to you. I you show us that real men are what you want is required. Boys will eventually file suit and aspire to been men even in there grown age. Peace
I am a black man married to another race, I think of my self and others think i am handsome, I don't have low self esteem and I always had a job. Growing up I wasn't popular, didn't wear the latest clothes, wasn't at all the party's, and didn't really act up at school. Seems as though those stereotypes was the only ones that the black girls at that time was getting with. I didn't wear jewelry and I didn't drive a old school on some "thangs" or have every pair of Jordan's that just came out. once again the only ones that got some play. I dated some black girls and each time it ended over something simple, I tried overlooking the fact an gave them another chance, but once again they would go back to the same childish *** ways. I've been knowing what qualities that I wanted in a Woman and potential wife and mother of my kids since I was in middle school. But every one of them that I encountered didn't want anything in life but a car and some gold. When ever I approached a girl they acted like they was to good and mind you I'm not running some lame *** game just started a conversation, they all had attitudes and such. It was like talking to the same girl over and over, when I did start dating out side of my race that's when all of a sudden everyone was interested but when I was trying to get on nobody had the time of day. But now since they been busted by everybody and they daddy, they had interest. I had goals, they had nothing, I had money, they had baby's daddy's, I wanted to buy a house, they wanted section 8, I wanted a woman, they acted like wild girls. I wanted to start a family, they had a little league team already. They wanted a Bentley, I had a neon, they wanted a tall man with a six pack, I was 5'10 with a flat stomach, they wanted a basketball player, I was learning self defense so that I could properly defend my family, they said they wanted a man, but only dated gangsta's, he hit you, I kissed you, he took your money, I put money in your pocket, he liked you, i loved you but you did me wrong on many occasions . I don't hate black women, I love them to death but when I tried to be with you black women you did more than push me away. Since getting with my wife I have accomplished more with her than I ever did with any black girl I dated, don't take this the wrong way I'm just informing you of what pushed me and some other black men away. Since being with my wife I own two cars and her's, WE bought a house, in another country, she and I both have sacrificed to reach our goals together, she supports me and I support her in everything we do no matter how stupid it is. she don't try to be the man in the relationship, and I never have to come home to an argument over something as stupid as the toilet paper on the wrong side. Yes I love black women, but some of you I and others just can't be with until you change, go back to the way you was, the first love of every black man, stop degrading yourselves for attention, just stop the non sense. I love you, we love you, to many women the world over want to be you, obviously for some reason that you don't see in yourselves. this is not a put down, everyone asks the question and this is my easy response.
IOU10 Best answer by far. I for the most part I can agree. I don't like using to generalizations grouping all black men and women together though. In my opinion alot of these single black women are finding it hard to get a man because they have been so hurt by deadbeat fathers, molesting relatives, being raised by single mothers and being forced to grow into a tough minded cold hearted woman by the time self realization comes into play. Some of them have a wall up and it takes tremendous work to break it down. Some men don't want to take the time and effort to break that wall down so they move on to the next and the next until they find one that doesn't have those issues or has already over come it. Doesn't mean she isn't going to be black or is going to be white just mean she is going to be a better more sound structured individual and that doesn't mean she started out that way either. Also you must think about it, the chances that a black person male or female grew up in a predominately black environment is very high. Maybe they just want to try something different. Take myself for example I would love to simply reproduce with another race just because I love the way little African American/Other race children look. I also have an African American son who I think is beautiful and love more than I love myself and love me some chocolate skin tone. It is hard to pin point why every black man that dates outside of his race does so. But I have to disagree that its because they all hate them. And if they do better that they date outside our race and don't produce any more self hating brothers or sisters.
